It can be super isolating when everyone around you seems to be in a relationship and you’re still single.
Trust us, we’ve been there! But fret not–your time for a happily ever after will come, we promise. The key is to keep your thoughts positive and be mindful of how you treat yourself because your internal thoughts often mirror what’s happening in your reality.
Kick your love life into high gear and stop thinking these seven things right now if you’ve never dated someone before.
It’s a common thing to hear “it’s not you, it’s them.” But it’s easy to get down on yourself and think something is totally wrong with you when you can’t seem to get any of your crushes to notice. Let us be the first to tell you that there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you, and you’re silly for even letting that thought cross your mind. We’re all unique and special and eventually you’ll find someone who loves you exactly as you are.
This is a sneaky thought that can visit all too often. The more you let this negativity take up valuable real estate in your mind, the more the thoughts become true and your reality. Keep a positive attitude and manifest the relationship you want and you’ll be surprised how quickly it comes to you.
Fitting in can feel like the obvious thing to do—who wants to be the oddball that stands out? Whether it’s your funky attire, your tough girl attitude or your whip-smart math skills, know that you don’t need to change a single thing, the right person will like you just as you are.
Social media can give us a false sense of what the perfect girl is supposed to look like. Girls come in all shapes, sizes, heights and colors, so don’t ever think you need to fit into a specific mold in order to snag a date. You know the secret to being pretty? Being confident. If you’re happy with yourself and love how you look, others will follow suit.
It’s easy to form a crush on someone you’re close to—you clearly like their personality and you get along well (or else you wouldn’t be friends). But turning that friendship into a relationship can seem daunting and straight-up scary. Our best advice for digging yourself out of the friend zone is to test the waters and make the first move, or at least do a lot of seemingly innocent flirting. You’ll never know if you don’t try!
What does a loser mean anyway? By definition, a loser is “a person or thing that loses or has lost something, especially a game or contest.” What exactly have you lost? Shake that word out of your mind because it honestly doesn’t mean anything. And if there is someone who makes you feel this way, know that they’re the real loser because they lost out on you as a friend or girlfriend.
This can be a tough one. Let’s be clear that there’s so much more to a catch than looks. If there’s a someone clearly digging you who may not be your top choice (but is pretty awesome otherwise), why not give them a chance? By having super high standards, you’re essentially saying you’re better than a whole lot of people who could end up being a good fit for you. Just watch this one because you ultimately could be self-sabotaging yourself from finding a great match.
In case you need a reminder of how awesome you are, find out your most lovable quality HERE!