5 Things You Should NEVER Do When Breaking-Up With Someone

If you're in an unhappy relationship and you plan on breaking up with your significant other, it's probably a conversation you'd rather not think about.

Whether love is lost, you're constantly fighting or there's some other reason you want to call it quits, just know that you're valid in your decision. We know, it's not going to be fun and will probably involve lots of tears, which is why it's important to do it in a considerate manner.

If you aren't sure how to go about it, continue reading to find out the five things you should never do when breaking up with someone:


1. Don't Say, 'It's not you, it's me.'

The saying, "It's not you, it's me," is perhaps the most overused breakup excuse of all time. While it may be the truth in some cases, you should still avoid using it. It's not a clear indication of what went wrong, and in the end, it's totally unfair to the person you're breaking up with. And tbh, does anyone actually mean it when they say that? Because in our experience, saying "It's not you, it's me," really means the opposite.

2. Don't Leave Them With False Hope

If you've taken breaks in the past or have even broken-up before, and this time you truly mean it, don't leave them with false hope. Be very clear that you won't be getting back together. And while you may want to lessen the blow of breaking up with them, don't say anything along the lines of "maybe one day." If you're cutting ties with them, do it the right way and make it very clear that your relationship is ending for good.


3. Don't Start a Yelling Match

While having a yelling match is never anyone's intention, sometimes in the heat of the moment, it's pretty hard to avoid. If your soon-to-be ex starts saying rude things or even yelling, you'll likely get angry, hurt, upset and will probably want to start yelling yourself. It takes a strong person to avoid falling into that hole, but by standing your ground and acting as the bigger person, your breakup won't be as painful. After all, you likely have lots of beautiful memories with this person, so don't make your last interaction all about yelling.

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4. Don't Avoid the Conversation About Your Expectations for the Future of Your Relationship

What comes after the breakup is usually the toughest part. Even if you're the one who initiated the split, it doesn't necessarily make it any easier. That's why it's important to talk about what your expectations for the future of your relationship are early on. Do you want to remain friends? Never speak again? Talk in a few months? Set boundaries for the two of you to go over so that there isn't any confusion. If you have mutual friends, discuss if you feel comfortable all hanging out together. At first, you'll likely try to avoid them at all costs, so do what's right for you.


5. Don't Dance Around the Reason(s) You're Breaking Up With Them

One of the most annoying things that can happen during a breakup is when the person doesn't give an actual reason. You're left feeling very confused and wondering what you did wrong. Be explicit in the reason you're leaving them, as it will give both of you the closure you deserve. Whether you got bored, they stopped paying attention to you or they did something horrible, be clear as to the reasons you no longer want to be their partner.


Did you recently go through a breakup? Click HERE for why you should stay off social media following the split.