7 Major Reasons Why Your Crush May Have Lost Interest in You

Have lengthy text paragraphs become one-word responses? Have touchy-feely hand gestures turned into crossed arms?

If you're just not feelin' the love from your crush like you once did, it's not like they woke up one morning and decided they're over it. There was either a particular incident or situation brewing over time that led to their decision.

If you're scratching you head, wondering where things went wrong, we're pretty sure it's, unfortunately, because of one of the seven reasons below.

1. You've Been Too Eager, Jealous or Available

We've definitely been over-expressive with feelings for our crush before. Sometimes we just can't hold in our emotions. But, sadly, when we've acted this way, we've pushed them away. Most people are attracted to someone who keeps them on their toes; who keeps them guessing; who gives them the chance to get excited. If you're constantly in your crush's face, blowing up their phone 24/7 or getting in their business about other girls (who may not even mean anything), it can be a bit overwhelming, and it can be a big turnoff.

Cheryl kissing Archie on Riverdale

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2. They Think You're Playing Them

While people do like a little game of hard-to-get, if word gets around that you're also seeing someone else or talking to someone else romantically, that can be a big bruise to the ego. No one wants to look like a fool, so if your crush thinks you're making them look like one, they'll more than likely get over you quick.


3. You've Flaked on Them Too Many Times

Going back to No. 1, you don't want to be at your crush's beck and call—but, if you consistently flake, that's telling them you're not interested, and it's giving them opportunities to make plans with someone else. Also, flaking is downright rude, and if your crush is a pretty reliable person, they'll think you're behavior is disrespectful, which will ultimately lead to them losing interest.

Riverdale: Cheryl Blossom in the diner

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4. You Two Have Transitioned Into Pen Pals

Has it been months since you've seen your crush? Did you two kick things off with excitement, but as time went on, you guys have become bored just going back and forth? There may have been casual talks about trying to get together or asking what the other is doing over the weekend, but if that initial passion has fizzled out and you find yourself having the same monotonous convo every time you chat, it's probably because you two have transitioned into pen pals and that crush factor is gone.

Riverdale: Betty texting

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5. They Met Someone Else

This one is plain and simple. They may have met someone they're interested in more than you. It's obviously a bummer, but it's not like you did anything wrong, so don't blame yourself or try to think about what you could have done differently. Maybe this new person made more of an effort or maybe they see your crush more and it turned into something. Who knows? But either way, the best (albeit hardest) thing to do is just move on and start crushing away on someone else.

Archie and Veronica Hugging

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6. You've Been Missing From Where They Regularly See You

Did you and your crush see each other solely during an extracurricular activity? Were you guys lab partners in last semester's biology class? Did you used to hang out in the same lunch crew? If your patterns of seeing each other IRL have changed, it's easy for that out-of-sight, out-of-mind mentality to kick in. This is another instance where you did absolutely nothing wrong—but unfortunately many crushes are out of convenience, and if you're not around, they can easily move on.

Cheryl and Archie in science class on Riverdale

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7.  They Feel Insulted by You

Maybe you made a poor joke, or perhaps something got lost in texting translation, but if you said something in truly poor taste to your crush, all it could take is that quick moment to turn them off. If you think this could be the reason they've seemingly lost interest, it's definitely worth asking, as you'd hate to ruin your chances of being with them due to a miscommunication.


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