How to Deal When You're Rejected by Your Crush

The butterfly feeling you get when the person you're crushing on likes you back is hands down one of the most amazing feelings in the world.

And that sinking feeling you get in the pit of your stomach when your crush doesn't like you back is probably one of the worst.

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But, that's life. Sometimes, feelings are mutual. And, sometimes, they're not. And while the pain of not being liked back may sting briefly, you may find that these situations will make you a stronger, more independent you.

If the feelings from your crush aren't being reciprocated, we're here to help you keep your cool with these seven easy steps.????

1. Don't Force Anything

If the person you're crushin' on has expressed that they're not interested in you in the same way, then let it go. The worst thing you can do at this point is build up false hope that something could still happen. Accept that you two might just be made to be friends and recognize that you deserve someone who knows they like you for you! You shouldn't have to do any convincing.


2. Put Yourself in Their Shoes

It may be hard, but respect your crush's decision and be thankful that they didn't lead you on. Consider what you would do if you were them. Haven't you ever thought an individual was super great, but you weren't interested in being more than friends with them? If that's how your crush feels about you, you can't blame them, it happens sometimes.

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3. Still Be Friendly

Just because the person you like doesn't like like you, it doesn't mean you have to totally eliminate them from your life. In fact, if you guys started out as friends, there's absolutely no reason why you shouldn't try and maintain a friendship. You don't have to be besties, but this person obviously meant or means a lot to you, so be kind and understanding and do your best to be friendly. They'll love that you're being the bigger person. ????

4. Focus on Other Relationships

Real talk: Why stress about this relationship, when you probably have a dozen other ones that will have a more positive influence on your life?! Spend time with the ones who know and love you best, i.e. your besties, your family and even your pets. By spending time with them, you'll easily be reminded of what a catch you are, and your sadness will melt away.

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5. Focus on You

Guess what, as cliché as it may sound, it's really their loss, not yours. You already have so much going for you, so instead of letting your sadness get the best of you, focus on all of your amazing qualities and do activities that make you feel happy and empowered. Go on a run, paint your nails or call a friend. You are your No. 1 priority right now, and that's pretty awesome.

6. Distract Yourself

If you're still feeling a little blue, the best solution is to distract yourself from anything that will make you think of your crush. Try finding a show to binge watch on Netflix, pick up a new hobby, read a book or just spend some quiet time doing yoga or meditating. Cleanse your thoughts of your crush and you'll feel infinitely better.

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7. Move on

Above all, just know that you can and will move on. Trust us when we say that you'll have many more crushes and crushees in your life. So, maybe this one didn't work out, but there could be a nicer, smarter person just around the corner who will be completely smitten by you.


If you're not quite sure yet if your crush likes you back, check out THESE five simple signs that the feelings might be mutual.