What It Means When Your Crush Leaves You on Read

Being left on read by your crush is everyone's worst nightmare.

No one should go through the pain of mustering up the courage to finally send a text only for a read receipt to show up once it's delivered. It's a modern day version of medieval torture.

Sometimes though, it shouldn't be the thing that keeps you up at night. Sometimes being left on read isn't as big of a deal as we make it out to be.

To keep you from experiencing a panic-induced frenzy, we thought we'd reveal what it actually means when your crush leaves you on read below:

They're Busy

This is a fairly obvious reason as to why you were left on read. Sometimes people will quickly glance at their phone, open their texts, but get pulled back in by whatever they need to do. Think about how often you probably do this while you're working on homework or out with family. It's nothing personal, it's just that there's a bigger priority than responding to a text message.

It's important to remember that being left on read doesn't mean they aren't going to respond. They still can, it just make take them a little while longer to do exactly that. So give it some time.


They Don't Believe a Response Is Required

Not every text message requires a response. While some people enjoy keeping the conversation going for the sake of keeping it going, we do not belong to that group. If someone sends us a one-word response, an emoji or practically answers their own question, then we're definitely not going to respond.

We get that this is your crush we're talking about and it's probably not what you wanted to hear, but we urge you to be creative when texting them. Sending things that don't require a text back won't get you a text back. Give them something, anything to respond to.

Actress from Sierra Burgess Is a Loser texting on her phone in the school hallway

(Sierra Burgess Is a Loser via Netflix)


They Don't Know How to Respond

On the flip side of sending them something that doesn't need a response, there's always those texts that take a little bit more thought when crafting what you're going to say back. If you professed your undying love for them in a 10,000 word text, it's obviously going to take them a minute to figure out how to respond.

This happens to us on the daily, but thankfully we're smart enough to turn our read receipts off. Regardless, it's still the same situation of not always knowing what to say, but still wanting to say the right thing. They're probably crafting their response with the help of friends as we speak, so don't panic.


They Got Distracted

We don't know about you, but we often will open a text message and then immediately get distracted because we remembered something else we needed to do. This could be responding to someone else's text, checking Instagram, sending a Snapchat, tweeting a witty one-liner, etc. There are a million things to distract one (us, included) from responding to a text.

The odds that they read it and it sparked a thought to do something else are pretty high. So while they might've forgotten they didn't respond, if they really want to text you back, they'll check their messages when wondering why you didn't respond and realize they never send one in the first place.

Elena Gilbert staring sadly at her phone on The Vampire Diaries

(The Vampire Diaries via The CW)


They Didn't Mean to Read It

Just because it says read, doesn't mean it was meant to be read. They might've seen the text come in, not wanted to open it, accidentally did and just moved on without responding. If they respond sometime later, then you're in the clear. But if they never text you back, well things aren't looking so hot. Either way, give it a few days and you'll get your answer.


They're Playing Hard to Get

Most people are left on read accidentally, but there are few times when it happens on purpose. That's usually a bad sign, but not always. If your crush knows the dating game all too well, they're probably leaving you on read here and there because they're playing hard to get.

They won't let you know they like you—oh, no. They're going to make you think the complete opposite. If you're into this, get in on the fun. Leave them on read, too. But if you're not too fond of people playing games, call them out or move on.

Iris West smiling while looking at her phone on The Flash

(The Flash via The CW)


They're Just Not That Into You

We've come to the point in this post where we need to practice a little bit of tough love. Sometimes people leave others on read because they aren't all that into them. As much as it pains us to say, this could likely be the reason your crush left you (and even continues to leave) you on read.

If you keep getting left on read, ease up on the texts a bit. After all, absence does make the heart grow fonder. Plus, why waste your time on someone who doesn't even think twice about you? We understand you really like them and want to make it work, but they aren't the one you should be expending all your energy on. Back away and let them go, especially because someone who won't leave you on read is right around the corner.


Texting your crush is always a struggle, especially when it comes to figuring out the best text to send. If your crush hits you up with a simple "hey," HERE's how you should respond.