The Right Way to Flirt With Your Crush on Instagram

Flirting with your crush IRL is a truly terrifying experience, which is why chatting them up over Instagram is definitely the way to go.

Before you dive right in, scroll below for our tips on how to flirt with your crush on IG the right way.

Follow Them First

Don't waste your time waiting around for your crush to ask for your Insta and follow you. It can happen, but it'll likely take a bit of time before they do just that. Go ahead and follow them right this very second. They'll see you in their notifications, probably recognize you and follow you back. The worst thing that could happen is they don't follow you back right away, but it's all good. At least you were brave enough to make the first move, so don't get down on yourself if this action isn't reciprocated.

Maia Mitchell in The Fosters

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Like Some Pics

After you follow your crush, and regardless of whether or not they follow you back, go ahead and like some pics. There is no harm in double tapping one or two of their photos. Before you go on a liking spree, remember to only give some love to more recent photos. It's definitely creepy if you like something from 56 weeks ago. Go ahead and scroll to that point, but be very careful not to double tap.


Reply to Their Stories From Time to Time

If your crush posts on their story, go ahead and watch it. And if you feel so inclined, reply to whatever they posted. Now, don't do this all the time, because that's just overkill. Depending on how often they share something on their story, reply once or twice a week. If they don't post as regularly, reply very, very sparsely. You don't want to bombard them, especially if they aren't even responding to you in the first place.

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Comment on Their Pics Sparingly

Commenting is always a great way to get noticed by your crush. Anyone and everyone can like a photo, but you stand out when you leave a comment. That being said, you don't have to post something on every little thing they share. Do this every so often and only on things that merit a comment. You also don't need to think too carefully about what you comment. Obviously, don't say anything like "I love you" or "Date me please." When in doubt, we recommend using an emoji. It's simple and to the point, but doesn't expose your giant crush on them.


Use School as an Excuse to Slide Into Their DMs

If you'd rather have a private convo with your crush, utilize the DMs. Easier said than done though, right? The best way to go about this is by using school as your excuse. If you have a class with them and need homework help, send them a DM. If you have a question about joining a school club they're in, use that as your reason for DMing them. Once you find that commonality, sending them a message won't seem so scary.

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Know Your Limits

It's key to know when to hold them and when to fold them when you're using IG to flirt. You don't want to keep liking and commenting on your crush's pics if they're not reciprocating. Clearly, they're not interested, so it may be time for you to ease it back. If they don't notice you in their notifications as often, they may start to worry and even reach out to you to see where you went. Playing hard to get works better than we'd like to admit.


Don't Get Your Friends Involved

Before you DM your crush or comment on their pic, your first instinct is to probably send it over to your besties for their critiques. Don't give in to that urge. It'll only complicate things and make you more frazzled. Instead, breathe and don't overthink it. Whatever you first come up with to DM them or leave as a comment is probably fine, so no second guessing here. Stick with your gut.

Pretty Little Liars looking at their phones

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