7 Ways to Deal With a Friend Who Always Copies You

In the wise words of Oscar Wilde, "Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery."

But anyone who's had a BFF or sibling copy your every move knows that the flattery part goes away real quick. Whether it's a friend who's constantly ripping off your style, or a classmate who seems to keep copying your ideas, chronic copycats can be downright irritating and hurt your own self-expression. So, here's how to deal with them.

Take a Deep Breath

Before you go stir crazy thinking of ways to confront your admirer, think to yourself, "Is this really worth getting me upset?" Take a deep breath and remind yourself that there are worse things in the world than having someone emulate you.

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Look on the Bright Side

We build things up so much in our heads, but really, does it matter that she went out and bought the same new taupe suede booties and Fenty Beauty x Rihanna highlighter as you? If anything, you're a trendsetter—or "influencer," as it's called these days—and you have the power to influence your friends and classmates. When you think about it that way, it's pretty cool right?


Keep Changing Things Up

Copycats rely on things that other people do to create their own identities. The beauty of being the person with the vision is that you have the power to change things up. If your copycat seems to keep using your new acronym or snagged your signature scent, find a new one. You've got the ability to pave new paths and that's a gift. You're only further exploring your creativity when you change things up.


Remember That Someone Probably Did It Before You, Too

Sure, you might've been the first person in your group to tie a bandana around your neck, or were the first to snag the perfect shade of orange lipstick. But there's a 99.99999% chance that you weren't the first person ever to invent the idea.

Remind yourself that everything is cyclical, and we take inspiration and ideas from people, places and events that happened before us. So just because you sported a new look or tried a cool new workout class doesn't mean that you own it.


Decide Whether It's Cute or Malicious

Copying your new haircut or doing a book report on the same topic is frustrating, but when do you draw the line between harmless and personal? If it starts dialing up a notch (read: She's trying to steal your friends, or worse—your S.O.), that's when you've got to confront her about the situation.


Confront Them

If you're sick and tired and can't take it anymore, it's time to confront them. This can be a tricky conversation, so tread lightly. If this person is an admirer, chances are they're going to be sad and bummed, so play nice. However if the person is more of the jealous type, they might get defensive and snappy, so just make sure you're prepared with examples of what bothers you.


Find Something New

If you're itching to have something that's just "yours" again, find a new hobby, book, activity or exercise and keep it to yourself. Sometimes having something that makes you feel unique and special is all you need. You can try mixing up your own DIY beauty products, learn how to macrame or take a free yoga class.


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