8 Signs That Your Relationship Is Actually Good for You
Relationships have their ups and downs.
Some days you're floating on cloud nine, wondering how you ever lived without your S.O., and other days you swear that you're never speaking to them again because of a petty disagreement.
Highs and lows are normal, but how do you know if your relationship as a whole is good for you and your S.O.?
Keep scrolling for eight signs that'll help reveal whether or not your relationship is in a good place.
You Support Each Other
Finding the right way to support someone you care about can be difficult. Being their ultimate cheerleader and supporting their hopes and dreams often takes a significant amount of time and conscious effort. Supporting each other also goes beyond encouraging each other's likes and interests. It involves a genuine commitment to stand by each other and to help each other reach their highest potential. If you and your S.O. truly support each other in all your undertakings, it's a pretty clear sign that your relationship is in a good place.
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You Acknowledge Each Other's Flaws
Everyone is flawed in some way, and it's likely those imperfections will come to the surface in a romantic relationship. It's easy to believe that your significant other is perfect, especially at the beginning of a romance when you're too caught up in your feels to really think about potential problems. However, acknowledging your partner's flaws is an important part of maintaining a relationship.
Not only does it indicate that you've made it past the honeymoon stage, it also shows that you're not going to bail as soon as you see something you don't like. If you and your partner are able to acknowledge the not-so-great things about each other and still confidently say that you love each other, your relationship is in a solid place.
You Feel Comfortable Enough to Speak Your Mind
Navigating exactly what you should and shouldn't say is a problem that plagues many new relationships. You're not sure what will push your partner's buttons and you don't want to come on too strong or scare them away. It's an understandable fear, but part of knowing that you and your partner are in a good place is feeling comfortable enough to say what's on your mind.
This doesn't mean you should be harsh or insensitive to your S.O.'s feelings, but it does mean that you don't feel hesitation about addressing things that bother you. This is a positive place to be in a relationship because it indicates that you and your S.O. know each other well enough to address any potential problems effectively, and it shows that you feel safe enough with your S.O. to call them out without worrying about them leaving you. Not only does it provide you with a certain peace of mind, it is also an important indicator that your relationship is in good standing.
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You Have Your Own Hobbies and Interests
If you're dating someone, it's natural to assume that you enjoy each other's company. Sometimes, spending time with your S.O. can have a negative impact, eventually resulting in cutting ties to friends and outside hobbies or activities until it's basically just the two of you existing in your own little world. However, many couples find a healthy balance of spending time together while maintaining separate lives.
If you and your S.O. each have hobbies and interests that are important to you, it's a good sign that you've found that coveted balance between maintaining a relationship and taking time and space for yourselves. This indicates that you and your S.O. are important to each other, but you're not dependent on each other for enjoyment, which makes your time together all the more special.
You Trust Each Other
We've said it before and we'll say it again: Trust is one of the most important parts of any healthy relationship. However, trust is easy to fake. Saying that you trust your S.O. but internally freaking out every time they're around other girls isn't genuine trust, it's just you trying to mimic trust because you know that's what you should do. If you and your partner have made it to a place where you truly trust each other in every situation, it's a clear sign that your relationship is doing well.
You Know How to Let Things Go
Things happen in relationships. If you're planning to be with your S.O. for a long time, you're going to have a number of fights and disagreements, some of which will be handled better than others. A lack of fighting isn't necessarily a sign of a good relationship, but knowing how to let things go after a fight is. This means that you won't be airing out your dirty laundry around friends or relatives, and you won't be bringing up the same old arguments every time a new disagreement arises.
Knowing how to have an argument, find a solution and let your anger go is a good sign that your relationship is in a positive place.
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You Understand Each Other
There's no better feeling than being around someone who just gets you. This indicator is much more elusive than the others on this list because it stems from a personal feeling that will be different for every person. Overall, it just means that you feel that you can totally be yourself around your partner—showing off the good, the bad and the ugly—and they will still love and support you. If you truly feel that you and your partner have a deep grasp of who the other person is, it's a solid sign that your relationship is built to last.
You Genuinely Have Fun Together
As difficult and stressful as relationships might be sometimes, you should always remember that you're still supposed to have fun with your partner. Whether you're lounging on the couch binge-watching Netflix or heading out on some cross-country adventure, you should always feel that you're genuinely having a good time with your S.O. If you and your S.O. can traverse arguments and disagreements and still feel that you truly enjoy each other's company, you can rest assured that your relationship is in a good place.
A good relationship doesn't mean you never fight. In fact, it might just be the opposite! Click HERE to see six reasons why (occasionally) fighting with your S.O. is actually very important.