The DOs and DON'Ts of How to Act When Your Crush Comes to Your Party

Throwing a party, for any occasion, is an ideal way to interact with your crush.

It's a social environment for the two of you to hang out, without any pressure to confess your feelings or even make it clear that you like them. Of course, if they do show up at your shindig, your behavior is of the utmost importance. One wrong move could scare them away for good. No pressure, though.

We're kidding… kind of. While your choices won't necessarily ruin your relationship forever, they can keep you from moving things to next level, beyond just a friendship. If you want everything to go off without a hitch, keep scrolling for the DOs and DON'Ts of how to act when your crush comes to your party.

DO: Hang Back

When it comes to the evening of your celebration, calm, cool and collected should be your goal. You're the host and you should be totally polite, but when it comes to your crush, it's okay to hang back a little bit. When they walk through the door, don't rush to their side and thank them for coming. Let them make their way over to you and then greet them like they're any other guest. You'll seem laid-back and in control, even if you're totally freaking out inside.

Riverdale: Cheryl and Toni at pool party

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DON'T: Stick By Their Side All Night

Once your crush actually arrives at your party, it's so tempting to spend the entire night with only them. You want to hang out, so you stick by their side like glue, following them from room to room and generally making it clear that you're all about them. Not only will this make you a bad host, it can also make your crush feel suffocated. You both need space to enjoy the party. Flutter from group to group and check in on your crush every now and then. Be the social hostess and interact with everyone, instead of making yourself a permanent sidekick to your crush.


DO: Stay Calm

The fact that your crush actually showed up at your party is so exciting. However, they don't need to know that. If you act overly excited about their presence and continuously thank them for coming, they're going to feel a little weird. Remind yourself that they're just another guest. You may have feelings for them, but you need to make them feel comfortable and relaxed. Freaking out about the fact that they showed up will only have the opposite effect.

The Princess Diaries: Mia and Josh at party

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DON'T: Ignore Them

While you're trying to act cool and relaxed, your aloof behavior can also go too far. You don't want your crush to think that you hate them. No matter how nervous you feel, don't ignore them all night. They made an effort to hang out with you by showing up. Ignoring them will only initiate feelings of rejection and confusion. Calm, normal conversations are the goal. Don't let your desire to remain cool keep you from interacting with your crush at all.


DO: Start a Conversation

This is your chance to hang out with your crush outside the confines of school. Take advantage of it. At some point during the night, start a conversation with them. It can be about anything, from their favorite TV show to a teacher you both hate. Your convo can be totally casual—it doesn't have to be a life-changing experience. It simply gives the two of you a chance to get to know each other and determine if there's something more there, or if your feelings are based more in fantasy than reality.

The Vampire Diaries: Elena and Damon dancing

(The Vampire Diaries via The CW)


DON'T: Get Jealous

Ah, the most frustrating situation. You've finally got your crush in the same room as you for an entire evening, only for them to spend the whole night talking to someone else. It's a blow to the ego and a little bit painful, but whatever you do, don't get jealous. You can't know exactly what's going on in their other conversations. It might just be a chat between friends, with nothing more to it. The second you get jealous, you ruin the entire night for yourself and impede your ability to bond with your crush. Unless they're  clearly not into you, you're totally free to keep pursuing the person you like. Don't let jealousy get in the way of what could be a really successful evening.


DO: Be Confident

When your crush shows up at your party, they're now on your turf. You're in your comfort zone, surrounded by people who like you, and they're the ones who have to adjust to the vibe of the evening. Take advantage of the power dynamic and embrace your most confident self for the night. Remember that you're totally in control of the situation, and walk through your party like you're Beyoncé herself. Not only will it make you more attractive, it will also boost your courage, allowing you to interact with your crush without fear.

Stranger Things: Steve and Nancy at a Halloween party

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DON'T: Put Pressure On the Night

If your crush comes to your party, it can feel like your one and only opportunity to make something happen. However, that's not the truth. The party is a good chance to bond with your crush and to expand on your relationship, but things still take time. Don't expect to walk away from the night with a declaration of love from the person you're digging. Putting too much pressure on the evening will only lead to disappointment. Expect to have a nice night and spend a little time with your crush—that's it. Anything on top of that is just a nice bonus.


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