How to Ask Someone to Be Your Girlfriend or Boyfriend

Asking someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend is nerve-racking.

Of course, you'd like to think they're on the same page as you, but sometimes, you truly have no idea what to expect. So, what are you supposed to do? With so much bogus information out there about dating and relationships, you can trust that you've come to the right place for some assistance. Below, you'll find our tips and tricks for landing a romantic partner, and how to properly and officially ask them out!

Be Confident in What You're Asking

We hate to break it to you, but it is super unattractive if you don't show confidence—especially in a big situation like this. If you want to ask someone to be your person, then you better be sure you make it look like it on the outside! Now is no time to be timid. Be confident in what you're asking and they're bound to say yes.


Don't Leave Any Room for Misinterpretation

Now is not the time to beat around the bush or use vague vocabulary. You need to be direct and not leave any room for misinterpretation. You might think you've made it abundantly clear by saying "I really like you and want to spend more time with you," but most people need a bit more clarity than that. Instead, literally ask, "Will you be my girlfriend/boyfriend/partner?" Of course, that exact question doesn't need to be used, but definitely throw in the world girlfriend, boyfriend or partner—at the least!


Act Like Yourself—Don't Put on a Show

If you're asking someone to be your boyfriend or girlfriend, you've probably come to that decision because you enjoy spending time with them. We'd like to think they enjoy spending time with you as well, so don't put on a show. They want to interact with the real you, so be sure to act like yourself! Sure, it wouldn't hurt to be more romantic, but don't do anything that goes against your behavior.


Pick a Planned Time and Place

We highly suggest picking a time and place to ask the big question. Of course, something spur of the moment might happen, and that's okay, too! If not, though, try to have an idea of where and when it's going to happen. Whether it's on a date you have planned or a phone call you intend to make, give yourself plenty of time to get your ducks in a row. And more importantly, be sure you don't have a bunch of prying ears listening in on your special moment!


Make Sure They're in a Good Mood

Last but not least, make sure they're in a good mood! If they're going through a rough time, found out they got a bad grade or just seem down in the dumps, it's probably not the best time to ask them to be your partner. Wait until their spirits are high and they have a smile on their face. And when they hopefully say yes, you can let them know you'll be there for them when they're feeling down.


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