What to Do If You Can't Stand Your Coach

It's the worst having a coach you don't like. There's nothing that can spoil your sports experience like having a rocky relationship with the person in charge.

As much as you wish the problem would just go away, that probably won't happen. You're going to have to step up and figure out a solution. Sports teach a lot of lessons, and this just happens to be your next one.

Keep reading for what to do if you can't stand your coach:


Whenever you're frustrated with anybody, it's good to take time to think about why. Ask yourself what specifically bothers you, and what you would like to see change. While it's easy to immediately blame your coach, be sure to consider your role in the conflict, too. If, for example, you feel like your coach is too hard on you and you'd like less negative feedback, you should at least contemplate whether you've been doing your best. You may realize that there are things you could do differently.

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Get an Outside Perspective

An outside perspective can be really helpful. When you're too close to a situation, it's hard to view it objectively. That's where friends and teammates come in. Try talking about the issue with someone else, especially someone who's seen you interact with your coach. They can help you get a better grasp on the situation, not to mention offer advice.


Have a Conversation With Your Coach

It can be intimidating, but if you want to improve the relationship with your coach, you're likely going to have to talk to them about it. How this goes depends on the situation. If you've realized that you've done something to frustrate them, for example, you may win back some points by apologizing and sharing what you plan to do differently. If, on the other hand, you feel your coach is in the wrong, try to have a calm conversation about what's bothering you. Respectfully share your concerns and suggestions.

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Ask for Help

It's okay to ask for help if you can't find the courage to talk to your coach or if the conversation didn't go well. Your parents may be able to help advocate for you. If you have another coach or a team captain, they're an option, too. Just be sure to handle the situation with care and respect. Stick to sharing specific behaviors or incidents that have upset you, rather than bad-mouthing your coach.


Stay on Top of the Situation

Once the necessary conversations have been had, keep paying attention. If there's something you're supposed to be doing, make sure you're doing it. If your coach is making progress, let them know you appreciate it.


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