How to Feel Better When a Close Friend Leaves You Out on Social Media

Social media should be a source of endless fun.

But sometimes, things take a wrong turn, and we see things we wish we could unsee. Being snubbed by a friend on such a public platform is one of those instances.

Read on for a step by step on what to do when a close friend decides to leave you out on social!

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Take a Deep Breath

Before you take any drastic measures, literally step back and take a huge, deep breath. Let your mind settle and turn off all the negative talk inside your head. No, you aren't a loser for being left out. No, you can't be 100% sure your friend did this on purpose. Always lead with the benefit of the doubt and allow a few deep breaths to quiet your mind.

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Remember There are (Literally!) Hundreds of Posts People See Each Day

Adding insult to injury, not only were you left out of the activity, you feel it was done on a very public platform. In this step, you need to remember to put everything in perspective. The probability of others noticing that you weren't included are slim to none. You have to realize that people see hundreds of posts every day.  Your other friends literally don't have the bandwidth to process who was left out on any particular post. Even if they do realize this, it will be only for a fleeting moment before they move on to the next post.


Decide If Approaching Your Friend Is an Option

After you've calmed yourself and realized that it isn't as big of a deal as you first thought it was, decide if approaching your friend about the situation is an option. There is no right or wrong answer here and every situation is different. If you feel like you can explain to your friend why your feelings were hurt and the conversation will be positive, go for it. If you think it will cause additional drama and possibly a fight between you two, then skip this step and keep the peace. Besides, if you brush it off like you don't care, you're not stroking their ego.

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Move On

The final step in this type of situation is moving on. Don't dwell on the feelings of being left out. Find an activity to do or reach out to another friend to hang out. Whatever you do, don't try to put up competing posts on social media. It will just make you come off as petty and childish. Let time do its thing and keep everything in perspective. In a week's time, you won't think it's as big of a deal as you think it is today.


Now that you know what steps to take when you feel left out on social, read THIS if you feel you might need a break from that pal.