How to Recover After a Long Friendship Fizzles

Some friendship are meant to last… others, not so much.

Sometimes the reasons are obvious, other times people just grow apart. Either way, watching a longtime friendship fall to the wayside can be rough.

If you're having a tough time going your separate ways from a friend, keep reading to learn how to recover after a long friendship fizzles.

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Don't Take It Personally

Nine times out of 10, when a relationship fizzles there's no one to blame. People change schools, they swap after-school activities, you name it. There are a ton of reasons why distance started developing in the relationship. The first step is to not take it personally, and from there, everything else will fall into place.

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Seek New Friendships

We would all prefer to have super long relationships. That said, you have to keep in mind that even the oldest relationship started with a Day 1 for you. For every friendship you lose, there's another you can find. While embarking on new relationships will seem foreign at first, the more you hang out with someone, the more you two will develop your own rituals, jokes and other characteristics of the friendship that went south.

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Don't Lose Hope for a Rekindling

Life is incredibly funny and oftentimes takes the most unpredictable turns. Instead of mourning an old relationship that fizzles, concentrate on the idea that one day you may pick up right where you left off. Friends reconnecting happens a lot, and you shouldn't lose sight of this possibility.

Be Fair to Your Memories

Instead of romanticizing the relationship, try to remember both the good and bad. Don't put the old relationship on a pedestal above your current friends. Remember that bad always comes with the good and every relationship is unique. On that same token, don't trash-talk the relationship after it fizzles. Be fair to your memories, and you'll have a higher chance of looking back on the relationship fondly without over-exaggerating the good.


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