How to Stop Being a Sore Loser

Nobody likes losing.

But as annoying as it is to not be the winner, a loss is bound to happen to all of us eventually. And whether it's the championship soccer match or a simple game night with your family, everyone needs to know how to lose with grace.

So how do you effectively keep your composure despite your competitive nature? Keep scrolling for tips on how to stop being a sore loser:

 Change Your Mindset

It's a total cliche, but it's the truth: Winning isn'everything. The first step to being a graceful loser is understanding that simple fact. If you find that a loss totally ruins your mood and sends you into a tailspin, you might want to question why winning is so important to you. If you understand that a loss isn't the end of the world, losing won't have as big an effect on your emotions, allowing you to handle a frustrating situation while still keeping your cool.

Blake Lively Playing Soccer

(Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants via Warner Bros.)


Think About the Repercussions Realistically

Some losses definitely hit harder than others, but one way to transform yourself into a good loser is to spend time thinking about the real-life repercussions of a loss. For example, losing a game of Monopoly literally has no effect on anything in your life, so why are you so stressed about it? Oftentimes, if you think about what losing actually means in a realistic sense, you'll find that the loss didn't really change anything in your life. Your stress about it, however, can have lasting impacts on your overall mood and happiness levels. It's better to let it go and enjoy the rest of your day, rather than allow yourself to stew in it and crush your spirit in the process.


Congratulate the Winner Immediately

We're all about fake it 'til ya make it, and—real talk—being a good winner is mostly about appearances. Even if the loss is eating you up inside, immediately congratulating the winner gives off the sense that you're taking it well. You don't need to have a long-winded conversation with them, just let them know that you're happy for their success and move on. Plus, if you force yourself to put on a happy face regarding their success, you'll stop yourself from spiraling into a negative space about your loss.

Blake Lively Sad

(Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants via Warner Bros.)


Walk Away

Sometimes the best way to deal with a frustrating loss is to simply remove yourself from the situation. If you find that you're feeling totally overwhelmed with emotion and don't think that you can be gracious to the person who beat you, just walk away. A little time to clear your head will help you to calm down, and it will keep you from making the situation even worse by lashing out. It definitely doesn't make you a good winner, but it keeps you from being a bad loser.


Be Sad, Not Angry

Being a good loser doesn't mean that you can't feel sadness or regret about your loss. Mourning your loss will actually help you to move on from it, but you have to keep that sadness from turning into anger or resentment. You can feel sad about your loss without feeling bitter towards the people who won. Allowing yourself to become resentful and irate makes you a bad loser, whereas being sad about your loss just makes you human.

Blake Lively Sad

(Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants via Warner Bros.)


Own Your Loss

Oftentimes, being a sore loser is accompanied by all kinds of excuses explaining why you shouldn't have lost in the first place. The rules were unfair, so-and-so is out to get you, you didn't have a fair shot—these and more excuses will only serve to keep you in a negative mindset about your outcome. Even if you think they're true, it doesn't really matter why you lost—you still lost. Owning it and refusing to point fingers will help you to accept it more easily and move on from it more quickly.


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