How to Tell a Friend They're Not Invited to Your Party

Holiday parties can get tricky, and being limited with space and budget can make the invitation process excruciating.

Here's how to let a friend down gently if they won't make the cut for your next holiday shindig.  

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Don't Let Your Friend Hear It From Somebody Else

The first rule to follow when you realize a friend won't make the cut is making sure they hear it from you first. Under no circumstances should they find out about your event through social media or through mutual friends. Once you realize you're limited in space, reach out to them directly before any of your other guests receive their invite.


Keep Things Short and Sweet

Don't come up with an elaborate story or talk in circles when delivering the news. Give it to them straight, and you're more likely to let them down gently. Explain that you're hosting an event, give them the reason why you are tight on space and then quickly share the downside.

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Assure Them It Wasn't Your Full Decision

After you deliver the news, finish your talk by letting them know the decision wasn't fully up to you. Explain the truth regarding who set those limitations for you. Did your parents only allow a few invites? Did the venue put a limit on the number of guests you could host? Finish the convo by stating those limitations that were put on you.


Put a Get-Together With Them on the Calendar

After the news is delivered, let them know you want to calendar in your next hangout with them. If you leave the convo with a concise day and time you two will hang next, the person is less likely to feel this was something personal or that they were targeted because you don't like spending time with them. Explain that you love their company and that you'd like to see them as soon as possible. This should help smooth things over.


In need of some more friendly advice? HERE's how to respectfully turn down a favor!