6 Common Struggles of Dating Someone Really Hot—and How to Overcome Them
Having a ridiculously good looking significant other isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Sure, they make excellent arm candy, they're easy on the eyes and they spice up your Instagram feed—but they can also be the source of angst.
While your stress is likely self-induced and not based on anything they've done, here are six major struggles you'll relate to if you're dating someone really hot—and how to overcome them.
1. You Constantly Doubt Yourself
There's gotta be some mistake! There's no way this piece of heaven can possibly be all yours, right? If you're dating someone insanely hot, you always have a million thoughts going through your head about your relationship. You're not even focused on real issues between you and your S.O.—it's really more of just, like, what drew them to you, of all people, and how long until they get bored?
Get those thoughts out of your head and remember that if they wanted to be with someone else, they would. The more insecure you act about your relationship, the likelier you are to push them away. Don't let your self-doubt prevent you from living in the moment and taking in the beauty of your relationship.
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2. You Constantly Wonder What Other People Think
Even if your S.O. showers you with love and compliments, you still worry about everyone else. You constantly fear that people question why your S.O. is with you, and you assume people are going behind your back, telling your partner that they can do better.
No one can mess with a truly confident girl. If you prance around, arm-in-arm, with your S.O. and act like you're the dopest little lady in town, people will be less to talk because they know you won't care, and they can see how happy your S.O. is to be with you.
3. You've Become So Sick of Hearing About It
Yes, you're well aware your S.O. is hot! It's no secret to anyone, and you're the last person who needs a reminder. Why aren't you the one receiving the compliments? Why aren't you the one showered with praise?
While it can sound like a broken record after a while, try not to let it bother you. At the end of the day, the hottie people refer to is your romantic partner-in-crime, so it kind of is a compliment to you as well, even if not a direct one. Besides, wouldn't you rather hear people talk about your S.O.'s good looks as opposed to their bad ones?
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4. You Feel Extra Competitive
Because your S.O. is an A+ in the looks department, you feel like you need to make up for it in other ways. Maybe you'll feel validated if you get invited to a cool party or get a nicer car. You just want to assure your S.O. that you've got something great to bring to the table, too (even if it's only superficial).
Going back to No. 1, your S.O. likes you for who you are. If they wanted to be with someone else, they would. Being competitive with them will only cause a rift in your relationship. The goal is to always be on an even playing field. They likely lack in areas where you thrive, too, so don't force yourself to seem "cooler" or more important than them. That said, romantic partners should inspire and encourage each other to be their best selves, so if they've influenced you to do or become something for all the right reasons, then, by all means, go for it!
5. You Worry They'll Find Someone Hotter Than You
Many of your thoughts are likely consumed by people who you think are your S.O.'s "type." When you see your S.O. even wave at someone in the halls, you totally dissect whether your S.O. thinks they're hotter than you. You throw various names in their face when you two get into fights. You constantly live in fear of being dumped for the hottie in homeroom.
Here's the thing: You have zero control over your S.O.'s feelings, decisions or who they find attractive. What you do have control over is how you react to your own emotions. If you really genuinely feel insecure, instead of assuming the worst or getting mad at your partner for no reason, have a serious talk with them. If they truly care about you, they'll respect your honesty, tell you why they value you so much and prove you have nothing to worry about.
(To All the Boys I've Loved Before via Netflix)
6. You Assume Everyone Wants to Date Them
You've probably gotten into a minor spat with a close friend because your insecurity has gotten the best of you. Because everyone thinks your S.O. is hot, automatically they're all trying to swoop them up from under you, right? You can't even fathom the idea of another non-familial female spending any 1:1 time with them. It drives you insane.
Sure, your partner may be quite the looker, but acting like the jealous girlfriend won't get you anywhere but dumped. First off, not everyone wants to date your S.O. They know they're in a relationship and your partner may not be everyone's type. Even if the majority of people you know do want to date them, it's ultimately your S.O.'s responsibility to act respectfully to you and give you no reason for concern. If they have a wandering eye or give your actual reason to worry, then it's definitely time to reevaluate the relationship.
It sounds like you may have some insecurities to work through. HERE's how to handle feeling overwhelmed with jealousy.