5 Signs You're NOT Ready to Be In a Relationship

Changing your status from "single" to "in a relationship" is a big deal.

Even if you think you're ready to take on the responsibility, hate to break it to you, you might not be.

If you're single and ready to mingle, scroll below for five major signs that maybe you shouldn't rush into a relationship anytime soon.

1. You Don't See Your Own Worth

If you're entering a relationship to gain validation, you better pump the brakes real fast. Before you even think about getting a significant other, you must understand how great you are.

No matter how many times someone else says you are special, you are beautiful and you are intelligent, it will mean nothing and get you nowhere until you believe it for yourself.

As cliché and silly as this may sound, you must love yourself before anyone else truly can. Trust us. 

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2. You Feel Like You Won't Be Happy Until You Are In a Relationship

Sometimes we wander into a relationship thinking that maybe—just maybe, it will magically solve all our problems.

We hope that it will fill a void and instantly make us happy—we even blame our unhappiness on being single.

Well, guess what? A relationship is not the answer to happiness. If you're unhappy now, you will most likely still be unhappy even if you change your relationship status.

Work on learning what makes you truly happy while you're single, so that you can radiate good vibes when the time to have an S.O. finally does arrive!


3. You're Actively Looking for a Relationship

If you're searching for your soul mate or someone to seriously date, stop.

It's true that you won't find the one you're looking for if that's all you think about and all you do.

As mentioned above, what you should be doing is spending your time discovering important things crucial to your happiness. Focus on your interests, your passions, the things that make you truly happy at the end of the day.

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4. You're Trying to Be Someone You're Not

If you find yourself attempting to fit the perfect mold of what you think your crush wants or likes, you're going down the wrong path.

Although relationships do require change and compromise in order to work, you should never try to be someone you're not for the sake of the other person.

If you can't be you, you're not ready and the relationship is not right. Plain and simple.


5. You Haven't Found the Balance of Being Selfless and Being Selfish

Being in a serious relationship is like a balancing act. You need to know how to be equal parts selfless and selfish.

You will need to know when and how to put the other individual first, and when to take a step back and make sure you yourself are being taken care of.

If you become too selfless, you risk the chance of losing some of your individuality. If you become too selfish, you may drive the other person away.

Not until you find this happy middle, will you truly be able to make a relationship work.

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If you're down and out about not being in a relationship, don't be! Not having a boyfriend in high school actually worked in my favor. See what I mean HERE.