5 Signs Your S.O. Doesn't Trust You
There are quite a few elements that go into a healthy relationship.
Similar interests, effective communication and honesty all the make the list of relationship must-haves, but can any relationship truly thrive without trust? Even though trust is a cornerstone for a strong partnership, it's never a given that your partner has complete confidence in you.
Wondering if your S.O. actually trusts you? Keep scrolling for five subtle signs that they definitely don't.
They Need a Detailed Account of Your Whereabouts
Asking about your day is a normal occurrence in relationships. In fact, it can be endearing when your S.O. is fully engaged in a conversation about your regular happenings. However, there's a fine line between interest and obsession.
If your S.O. moves from a casual inquiry about where you were to a more demanding interrogation that needs you to account for every second of your day, it's not a good sign. They're either trying to catch you in a lie or they're attempting to soothe their own insecurities by proving you're willing to be totally forthcoming. Either way, it's a pretty clear sign that their trust in you is a bit rocky.
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They Want to Accompany You on Every Outing
Another sign that could be misconstrued as thoughtful, an S.O. who wants to accompany you on every outing might have different motives than a simple desire to spend more time with you. While it's totally fine to bring along your S.O. to pre-planned activities, it should be a red flag if they insist on being included in all your adventures.
It might mean that they worry about you going out alone or that they want to be around to keep tabs on whatever you're doing. No matter what their excuse might be—not wanting to be away from you, not having anything better to do, etc.—it's not a very good indication of their trust in you.
They're Overly Involved on Your Social Media
Social media is an entirely new animal when it comes to relationship dynamics because it opens up a virtual world for you and your S.O. to interact in. Posting about each other, liking, commenting, following each other's friends—these are all normal relationship behaviors.
However, if your S.O. starts paying specific attention to your more obscure social media habits, it might be cause for concern. Looking into your private messages, questioning why you liked so-and-so's post or even getting upset with you for not posting about them enough are all bad signs. Not only does it show a highly controlling demeanor that you should always veer away from, it also suggests that they don't have total faith in your loyalty.
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They Constantly Question Your Friendships
Obviously you want to have harmony across all your important relationships, but there's no requirement that your BFFs and your S.O. have to get along. If your S.O. is always trying to point out the negative attributes of your friend group, it's probably cause for concern. They might blame their worries on an attempt to look out for you, but if they're constantly trying to turn you away from your friends or accusing you of choosing your squad over them, they're probably no good for you.
Not only are they trying to isolate and control you, it's also a more subdued sign that they don't trust you to be loyal. This time, they're deflecting their concern by blaming your friends, which only makes the situation worse.
They Get Mad When You Don't Respond Immediately
Having an S.O. who wants to chat with you all the time isn't a bad thing. But wanting to talk to you all the time and getting mad when you don't respond to them are two very different things. Everyone gets busy—a ten-second response time isn't always easy to maintain.
If your S.O. gets mad at you for not responding fast enough, it's likely a deflection of their own worries. In your long response time, they start imagining all the things you might be doing instead of texting them, causing them to react towards you in anger. It's an effective way of dealing with worries and doubts, and it shows that their trust in you isn't as strong as it should be.
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