7 Signs You Have an Unhealthy Obsession With Your BFF
Everyone is mildly obsessed with their BFF.
After all, they're your best friend—would they even be able to earn that title if you didn't think they were one of the coolest people on earth? But sometimes your love and appreciation for your bestie can go a little too far.
Keep scrolling for seven signs you have an unhealthy obsession with your BFF.
You Never Stop Talking About Them
Like, literally never. It doesn't matter who you're with or what you're doing, you always find a way to work your BFF into the conversation. At first it was cute and endearing, but now everyone else you hang out with knows way too much about someone they're not even close to.
Sad as it might be, no one cares about your BFF adventures as much as you do, and they definitely don't need a rundown on your bestie's most recent dating drama. Save those topics for your next sleepover because no one but your BFF really wants to discuss them.
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Your Plans Revolve Around Their Plans
We've all sent the signature "So what are we doing tonight?" text to our BFFs. After all, they're your best friend, assuming that you do everything together is just part of the territory. But if you can't even imagine planning out your Friday night without looking to your BFF for inspo, your attachment might run a little too deep.
Having your own life is important, so restricting your plans to whatever your BFF is doing is bound to get a little annoying after a while. You might even find that you like branching out! But more than likely you'll hate being separated from your bestie and will return to your life of sleepovers and Netflix binging after one night apart.
You Don't Know How to Do Things Without Them
On the rare occasions that you do step out without your bestie, you suddenly lose track of all your social skills. It's like you're missing a piece of yourself, and you're not quite sure how to function without it. Just talking with people becomes awkward, unmanageable and strange—have you always been this bad at social interaction?!
We get it, we do. Having a bestie to rely on makes hanging out with people so much easier. But you should still be able to function on your own, so if you're really struggling to go anywhere without your BFF by your side, you might need a little more practice handling things alone.
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You're Jealous of Their Other Friends
Everyone knows that feeling of bitterness and resentment that fills you when someone refers to your BFF as their BFF. Obviously this person doesn't know their rightful place because there's only room for one BFF and it's definitely you. Jealousy might be natural in a friendship, but that still doesn't mean it's necessarily healthy.
Sadly, your BFF is allowed to have other friends and you should strive to support them in all their relationships, not just the one that benefits you. Next time the little green monster tries to rear its head, try to smile through the rage and accept that your BFF can't be yours alone.
You Panic If They Don't Text Back Immediately
Even though your relationship with your BFF is inherently platonic, it can sometimes feel exactly like a dating relationship. Especially when you send a text message and your bestie doesn't respond immediately. Like, you sent it a whole 10 minutes ago and you know they're by their phone—what if they're hanging out with another friend? Even worse, what if they're just ignoring you?
While not getting a text back can be totally frustrating, you have to understand that people have a life. Not responding isn't necessarily a reflection of whether they want to talk to you or not, and obsessing over your communications will only make you unhappy. Loosen the reins a bit—people have things to do other than waiting by their phone for your text.
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You're Way Too Invested in Their Dating Life
We all get a little too involved in our friend's dating lives—it's a natural part of being a caring friend. But there's definitely a point where worrying about the outcome your bestie's romantic decisions can go a little too far. For example, trying to monitor the communication in their relationships or pushing them to be with someone you think is right for them is definitely overstepping your bounds. And if you start to feel like you're actually part of their relationships, you've unquestionably gone too far. You're close, but no one's that close. As much as you love them, you have to let your BFF have their own romantic life.
You Can't Make Decisions Without Consulting Them
There's no one in the world who can give you advice quite like your bestie can, but you still have to be able to make your own choices. Plus, there are things that you shouldn't need to consult anyone about, like your daily outfit or your choices. If you and your bestie have gotten so close that you need their input on everything you do, you might need to take a little step back. Advice is valuable, but learning to make your own decisions is also a crucial part of simply living your life. BFFs are great, but they should never take the place of your internal voice of reason.
Thinking you and your BFF might need some space? Click HERE for four ways you'll benefit from spending time apart from them.