Can You Be Soulmates With a Friend? An Expert Weighs In

We're going to take a wild guess and say, at some point or another, you've referred to someone as your "soulmate."

It's easy to do when we find ourselves connecting with a person in a way we never have with anyone else. According to the dictionary, a soulmate is "person with whom one has a strong affinity, shared values and tastes, and often a romantic bond."

Going off that "romantic bond," are we crazy to think our soulmate may be someone who's just a friend? We chatted with Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®), who explains, "Soulmates, like [emotional or intellectual] intimacy and being in love, is based on a connection. To me, 'soulmates' means that two people have a connection that is special and unique. Connections are formed or caused by various factors—only one of which is romantic."

One girl giving her best friend a piggyback ride

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In fact, despite how some people discredit your ability to truly be "in love" with someone you've only had a platonic relationship with, Dr. Terri explains that "love doesn't have to be romantic," adding, "Love is a connection that you feel with another person. The connection can develop because of your attraction to someone, but that attraction can form or be based on many different things. You can be in love with someone for who they are, their support, their friendship, and their [deep] connection based on trust and knowledge [of you]." 

So, next time someone doubts the depths of your feelings for someone who's just a friend, know that your thoughts and the connection you feel are perfectly valid.


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