How to Start a Conversation With Your Crush on Instagram

Instagram isn't just for posting photos anymore.

While the app is great for staying updated on your friends' lives and humble-bragging about your own, it also serves a different purpose—it's the perfect way to initiate contact with your crush.

While texting may feel overly personal or invasive, chatting with your crush over Instagram allows you to communicate more subtly, and to feel out whether or not they're interested in you.

But how do you chat up your crush without making things weird? Keep scrolling for our best tips on how to start a conversation with your crush over Instagram.

The Story Response

The simplest and most-common way to start a conversation with your crush over Instagram is to just respond to their story. If you're nervous about making the first move, you could send a simple emoji response or a few haha's and call it a day. However, it'll likely be more effective if you respond in a way that invites a conversation. Ask them a question about their post or send an especially clever reply. If you put a little more effort in, your crush will probably feel more inclined to respond. Then, you can have an actual conversation, instead of trapping yourself in a cycle of random story responses that they never seem to care about.

Sierra Burgess Is a Loser: Sierra at the table holding her phone

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The Meme Tag

We're big fans of using memes to get our crush's attention. They're meant to make people laugh, so it automatically sets a lighthearted tone for your conversation. By tagging your crush in a meme that you think they'd like, you're communicating that you're thinking about them without being too intense. They may not respond to your message, but it shows that you're at least a little interested and it gives you something to reference next time you see them.


The Meme DM

While tagging someone in a meme eliminates the disappointment you'd feel at a lack of reply, it is a little bit of a riskier way to communicate with your crush. Since tags are public information, anyone can see your efforts to interact with your crush, which could potentially be embarrassing if things don't go your way. A meme DM, however, keeps all your interactions private. Not only that, it also might make your crush more likely to reply, since you're addressing them in a more direct manner.

Pretty Little Liars' Emily on her phone

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The Comment

Comments are a bit of a slippery slope when it comes to your crush. On one hand, they require very low commitment on your part. On the other hand, some people only have close friends or family commenting on their post, which would make your comment stand out. The best advice we can give is to comment with care and refrain from putting anything too flirty. Comments can be a great way to communicate your interest without putting yourself out there too much, but they can also make your crush feel uncomfortable if you're making your affections too public.


The Old Photo Double-Tap

Liking old photos used to be the ultimate embarrassment. But guess what? Times are changing. Now, liking old photos on Instagram can actually be an effective flirting technique. Go to your crush's page and double tap a few cute pics, preferably ones where they're by themselves or with one other person. Don't go way into the past—try to keep it within a couple months. And be sure to like more than one so your crush knows that it was on purpose. It's a risky way to flirt, but it clearly communicates to your crush that you're interested. They might like photos back, they might DM you or they might ignore it altogether. No matter what happens, you'll never know what could be unless you try.

Two girls looking at their phones

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The Direct Approach

Sometimes it pays to just be direct. Instead of waiting for a story or searching for a funny meme, just slide into your crush DMs with a nice message. It might feel scary, but the worst that can happen is that they won't respond. And who knows? Your upfront tactic might just work in your favor and land you the S.O. of your dreams.


Need more advice on chatting with your crush? Click HERE For how to decode 13 common emojis from your crush.