5 Subtle Signs Someone Doesn't Respect You

Clearly, if someone talks about you behind your back, insults the way you dress or lies to you, they're exhibiting disrespectful, red flag-worthy behavior.

But not all signs of disrespect are that obvious. There are a handful of less dramatic and less offensive actions that show someone doesn't value you the way they should.

Keep reading for five subtle signs someone doesn't respect you:

1. They Always Interrupt You

Let's face facts: Not every story, joke or tidbit a person shares with you is going to rock your world. There are plenty of times we tune out even the ones closest to us. But if we respect someone, we'll let them finish their thoughts before moving on to another topic (even if we're only pretending to listen to them). People who respect one another value what the other has to say, even if it's not always the most thrilling piece of information. By constantly talking over you, a person is showing that what they have to say is way more important and they don't care about something that clearly matters to you.

Stranger Things - Mike Wheeler and Eleven

(Stranger Things via Netflix)


2. They're Always on Their Phone When It's Just the Two of You

It's understandable that phones are going to be accessed at some point during an outing with someone. Whether it's checking in with someone or it's posting something on social media, phones are a central part of how most people function—whether we like it or not. But if your time with someone is literally spent with you watching them tap away for hours without a peep, that's unacceptable behavior. A person who respects you will want to put their phone away when you're together, because not only do they value your time and company, but they want to hear about you and not just make it about the life they live on their phone.


3. They Call or Excessively Text You When They Know You're Studying or Busy With Something Important

Sure, you want to be in touch with the people you care about around the clock, but a person who respects you will know the right times to reach out. If someone calls or texts you when they know you're studying, spending quality time with your family or doing something they know you shouldn't be distracted from, they clearly don't value boundaries. It's one thing if it's urgent, but if they're just contacting you because they're bored or they have something funny to tell you, they should know better.

Pretty Little Liars: Aria talking on the phone

(Pretty Little Liars via Freeform)


4. They Change the Subject or Shut Down When You Try to Confront Them About Something

If things are all roses and unicorns with someone until you have an issue you need to address with them, they definitely don't respect you. Relationships (of any kind) are going to have ups and downs, and part of what makes them stronger is plowing through occasionally unfavorable situations. Sure, no one wants to put up with the person who is constantly nagging (so def don't be that person!), but if from time to time you confront someone about something bothering you and they either accuse you of being all drama or they refuse to talk about it, they're proving they don't value your feelings. Someone who respects you will give you the open floor to air your thoughts and emotions—even if they don't necessarily agree.


5. They Invite People to Your Hangouts Without Asking You

Some people are more into one-on-one hangouts, and other people enjoy group get-togethers. Either way, if you have plans with someone and it's just you two, that'your together time. Unless someone invites another person for the sake of surprising you in a purposeful way that they know you'd 100% approve of, no one should be included in the hangout without your permission. Even if the invited guest is someone you like, sometimes we want quality alone time with certain people, and added bodies will change the dynamic. A person who respects you will not only value the time you took out of your day to hang out with them, but they'll also hold your opinion in high regard.

Jughead, Betty and Veronica all glaring at Archie on an episode of Riverdale

(Riverdale via The CW)


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