6 Rules You Should Definitely Follow If You Want a Successful Summer Fling
Ah, summer love.
Here one day and gone the next. At least, that's how it's supposed to be. While it may be heartbreaking to say goodbye to your fling at the end of summer, there's a certain kind of fun to starting a romance that's only meant to last for a season.
If you're ready for a season of spontaneous romance, keep scrolling for six rules you should definitely follow if you want a successful summer fling.
Be on the Same Page
First and foremost, you and your summer fling have to be on the same page. Otherwise, things are going to fall apart faster than you can blink. The relationship doesn't have to be super defined, but you should have a chat about what both of you expect from this romance. If you can confirm that you're both looking for a temporary relationship, then you have the green light to go ahead with your fling. If you're not on the same page, it will only lead to a lot of pain and miscommunication down the line.
Maintain Your Independence
A summer fling isn't really meant to be a full-on S.O. situation. That means attending social events as a duo and filling out your calendar based on the other person's activities isn't really in the cards. Instead, you should both maintain your independence and see each other when you see each other. Plan your summer around your friends and family, and find time for your summer fling when you can. By maintaining some distance between the two of you, you'll eliminate the possibility that either of you will get too attached to your temporary relationship.
Keep Things Private
If you want to have a successful summer fling, it's probably in the best interest of you and your partner to keep things private. The more people who know about your relationship, the more you're inviting scrutiny and outside opinions—the perfect ingredients to destroy a summer fling on sight. As long as you and your partner know what you're doing, it isn't really anyone else's business. Don't complicate things by flaunting your relationship for everyone to see.
Don't Fall in Love
Ugh, so cliché. But also so true. If you're really yearning for a short-lived romance, you can't allow your feelings to extend deeper than that. If you're moving towards the love direction, it might be in your best interest to cut things off. Both of you have agreed that this is meant to be a short term relationship, so falling in love will likely end up in a lot of pain, for one or both of you.
Keep It Shallow
As awesome as it is to have someone to confide in, that's not really what your summer fling is for. When you're dating someone, you naturally divulge information about your past and the inner workings of your life. If you just want to have a fling, however, you need to keep things a lot more shallow. Don't use them as your ultimate confidant—that's what your friends are for. Your summer fling is the person you escape to when you just want to have a good time, so it's okay if they don't know all the inner workings of your life.
The truth is, some summer flings might turn into something more. But the second you start planning for the future, you take the lighthearted fun out of your relationship. Don't put too much pressure on your romance. If things end at the close of the season, you've accomplished what you set out to do. If you end up having a full-fledged relationship, that's cool, too. Either way, don't get too caught up in your own head. It will only cause unnecessary stress for you and your partner. Your summer romance is meant to be carefree—let it stay that way.
Not sure if your relationship is the real deal? Click HERE for seven signs your summer romance is only a fling.