The Main Reasons You May Be Afraid to Say No to People
Let's face it. No one wants to feel rejected, and it can be equally challenging to be the person who dishes out the rejection. As a result, many people often say yes when they want to or know they should say no.
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Do you fall into this rampant cycle of people-pleasing? Continue reading to discover five reasons why people fear saying no.
You Don't Want to Be Rejected
When you stand up to someone, it can make them feel intimidated, threatened or hurt. Although they shouldn't, some people will retaliate in response. Unfortunately, it can lead to bullying, anger and humiliation. Some people may choose to stop interacting with you, leading to future rejection on your part. That said, this person isn't someone you'd want to interact with anyway, so it can be a blessing in disguise.
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You Don't Want to Hurt Someone's Feelings
It feels impossible to say no when you know someone was looking forward to your yes. For example, maybe you promised your friend you would go to an event with them, but when the event approaches and it's time to purchase tickets, it may no longer be financially feasible. However, it's better to be as honest as possible from the beginning to avoid more intense feelings later. If they are a good friend, they will understand and get over the negative emotions.
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Saying 'No' Requires Additional Effort
Do you ever know that saying no will open another can of worms? Say, at work. Your boss asks you if you finished your task. You don't want to say yes because it means they'll give you something else to do. We aren't saying it's a good reason to say no, but it's a very real emotion many people may experience.
You Don't Want the Moment to End
You might not be having fun, but you don't want the moment to pass. We see this especially when people are with their significant other. You weren't that interested in the activity they had planned, but you're enjoying the time because it's with someone you love. Saying no may mean less time with that person, so you agree, against your best interests.
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You Didn't Do What You Were Asked
We've all had those daunting interactions with a parent or teacher after we didn't do what they asked us. You didn't think avoiding your homework or chores would be a big deal, but they'll yell at you if you're honest about being distracted or generally lazy. It's much easier to lie and say yes. Hopefully, they won't notice, right?
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