6 Things You Definitely Feel When Your Ex Moves On
Even if you're totally over the relationship, it's always a little awkward when your ex moves on. Trust us, you're not alone if you get a little caught in your feels when you see a social media post of your ex and their new S.O. It happens to the best of us.
Keep scrolling for six things you definitely feel when your ex moves on.
Of course, the first feeling that hits when your ex moves on is a general sense of curiosity. Who is this person? How do they know them? How long have they actually been dating? This is usually the phase when you social media stalk both your ex and their new partner, trying to glean as much information as you can about the situation.
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If your ex moves on pretty quickly after your breakup, you're bound to feel hurt by their new relationship. If you haven't quite recovered from the breakup, the fact that they're doing so well and ready to move on feels like a stab straight to the heart. Hurt is just a natural reaction, especially if you're dealing with lingering emotions about your past relationship. Don't beat yourself up about it, but recognize that they've made their decision and there's nothing you can do about it. The hurt will pass with time.
Sadly, insecurity can definitely be a very present emotion when your ex moves on, especially if you have yet to find a new partner yourself. Seeing your ex happy with someone new can cause you to question your value in a relationship. It's natural, but it's also totally unfounded. Even if it feels personal, your ex moving on has nothing to do with you. You probably can't stop your insecurity altogether, but you can recognize that it's a feeling without any basis in reality.
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As much as we don't like to admit it, we all feel a subtle competition following a breakup to move on before our ex. If they find a new partner first, you can't help but feel like you "lost." In reality, relationships move at all different paces. It's better for you to be by yourself than to commit to a new relationship simply because you want to beat your ex. Still, we get the annoyance. Your sense of pride kicks in and you're understandably irked that they get to find happiness first. Is it a fair feeling? Not really, but it is a natural reaction.
Ugh, it's sad to watch someone you cared about move on when you're still all by your lonesome. If you're not in a good frame of mind, it can definitely make you feel lonely. They have a new person to rely on, why can't you have that as well?
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Ugh, this is probably one of the more annoying emotions. Depending on how your relationship ended, seeing your ex with someone new can bring up some pretty intense feelings of unease. The door is officially closed on the two of you, which can be pretty distressing. At this point, you may be tempted to reach out, even if you just want to start an argument. Fight it! The anxiety will pass eventually. Anything you do in those worried moments will probably come back to haunt you later down the line.
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