Your feelings are helpful in all kinds of situations, but they’re particularly useful when it comes to your romantic relationships.
After all, your emotions are the source of your attachment to other people, meaning they definitely need to be acknowledged and understood. Unfortunately, it’s also easy to get caught up in the excitement of a new romance, leading to feelings that are quite fickle and untrustworthy.
Your feelings alone might not lead you down the right path, but learning to interpret all your emotions can be a massive step towards making the right decisions.
So how do you know if your romance is the product of overly passionate emotions or if it’s truly a stable, healthy partnership? Keep scrolling for everything you should feel in a good relationship.
Even though contentment should always be the goal in your relationships, a true sense of unworried fulfillment is difficult to master. If you’re not with the right person or if your relationship isn’t as strong as it should be, you might start wondering what you’re missing out on by taking yourself off the market. Or, even worse, you might get bored of your S.O.
A good relationship should make you feel at ease and comfortable—not anxious, concerned or curious about what else is out there. If you’re not feeling content, it might not be the right relationship for you.
While contentment should be the goal in your relationship, it should also be paired with a sense of excitement about your romance. Now, that heart-pounding eagerness that you feel at the beginning of your partnership probably won’t last, but a underlying sense of anticipation should always stick with you in your relationship. It’s excitement about spending time with your partner, about what the future may hold for the two of you and about what you’ll be able to accomplish together. After all, if you’re not excited to be with the other person, you’re setting yourself up for relationship filled with boredom and disappointment.
Truthfully, relationships can be quite anxiety-inducing. Particularly at the beginning of a new romance, you’ll likely spend most of your time worrying and overthinking every interaction. This stems from a sense of insecurity about your partnership that leads you to believe any minor misstep might mean the end of your relationship.
However, as your romance grows and blossoms into a steady partnership, a sense of rationality should take over your feelings. If you and your partner are in a healthy relationship, you won’t spend all your time worrying about everything you say or do, spiraling into a pit of doubt every time they take longer than 10 minutes to reply to your text message. Good relationships come with a practical understanding that you’re committed to and happy with one another. When you settle into that sense of security, you won’t have any reason to indulge in constant uneasiness and concern about your relationship.
A healthy romance can’t exist if your partner doesn’t support your dreams and desires. Your S.O. should be pushing you to succeed and encouraging you to follow what you want—not pointing out all the potential ways that your plan might fail. If your romance is healthy, a sense of support and motivation will come naturally, providing you with a partner who can truly push you to be the best version of yourself.
Oftentimes, your romantic partner is the person you’re most comfortable with in the entire world. While it’s great to have someone who you feel you 100% yourself around, it also means that sometimes you’re both so at ease that you forget to treat each other with the love and support you both deserve. Being in a good relationship means that you always feel appreciated by your partner, even if it’s not explicitly stated.
A partner who takes what you do for them for granted isn’t fully realizing the value you bring to their life. Fostering a sense of appreciation in your relationship takes a little extra work, but it’s so crucial to having a healthy and lasting romance.
Most importantly, if you’re in a healthy relationship, you should just feel happy. Of course, every single moment with your S.O. isn’t going to be overflowing with joy. You’re going to have ups and downs and sometimes they might be the last person you want to smile at. But despite those little hiccups, an overall sense of joy about your relationship should be a permeating and pervasive feeling. Your romance should bring you happiness. Otherwise, what’s the point?
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