8 Big Tips for Successfully Dating a Gemini

Geminis are recognized for their charisma and friendly, outgoing personalities, so if you're currently crushing hard on one, we can't blame you.

Born between May 21 and June 20, the twins are known as social and intelligent creatures who are excellent communicators and able to adapt to pretty much any situation you throw at them. As partners, they're playful, affectionate and spontaneous, with the ability to find the fun in any situation. However, they're also independent and freedom-loving, and aren't so quick to commit. If you're looking for some tips on how to win Gemini's heart and build a successful relationship with them, here's where to start.

Be an Open Book

Gemini is ruled by the planet Mercury, which governs communication. This is  why they're so talkative and friendly, and they're one of the most likely signs to be in a relationship that was a strong friendship, first. To them, gabbing is a way to learn and get to know people, to open yourself up to the chance to really be understood and don't hold back. Gemini's probably not going to waste much time on people who don't seem receptive to friendship, so you don't want to play hard to get. Keep an open mind about all kinds of topic of discussion, and when you don't know a lot about the subject, simply pay attention. To Gemini, communicating is a bonding exercise, so make the most of it.

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Challenge Them

When you're in the talking stages with someone, it can be tempting to be as agreeable as possible and go along with things. However, Geminis also appreciate a bit of challenge in their discussions—particularly if you can show that they're their intellectual match. Don't be afraid to banter and demonstrate that you can keep up with their wits. If there are subjects you are passionate about and know front to back, impress them with that expertise. Gemini doesn't shy away from a healthy debate and tossing ideas back and forth. In fact, they find it highly engaging (and even kind of attractive).

 

Don't Expect to Become Their Entire Social Circle

It may seem ironic, but just because Gemini is defined by their friends doesn't mean they don't also crave their independence. Gemini will feel confined and held back by clingy relationships, so just because you make things official doesn't mean they're going to drop everything else. They'll still need their time with their friend groups, and that's actually a good thing. Decide whether you prefer to join in on the fun and become part of those social circles, or if you'll continue to do your own thing separately, in addition to the one-on-one bonding time you'll both be adding to your lives. This can be the best way to keep things healthy and balanced, prioritizing the relationship without smothering it in the process.

 

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Show Them Something New

Geminis seek out novelty and mental stimulation, so the more fun and new things you can do together, the better. While you might typically resort to the cozy and familiar in picking out places to eat or hang out, you'll better pique their curiosity by always finding new places to discover. Start by introducing them to your favorite hidden gems that are new to them, demonstrating your own knowledge and insights, and go from there. Maybe you have something to teach them based on your own expertise, or you can go and experience something new together.

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Get to Know and Love Both Sides of Gemini

There really are at least two sides to every Gemini—which is why they're represented by twins—and the most successful relationships will come from recognizing and appreciating them both. The sign can be moody and indecisive, suddenly changing from one idea or emotion to another. The better you work on understanding them, whether they're hot and cold or simply can't make up their minds, the easier it will be to empathize with and support them. Communicating in a straightforward and honest way, even when they're being difficult, can also be a big help.

 

Let Them Know How Much You Appreciate Them

Despite their friendliness and charisma, Geminis can also have a tendency to be a bit insecure. Their adaptable natures and desire to fit in can make them chameleons who change who they are based on who their around, and they can sometimes lose themselves in that process. In a relationship, you can work to help them let down their guard and take off that mask. When you see them for their authentic self, let them know that you recognize it and respect it. Help them learn that you appreciate them, that they don't have to impress you and that they can just be real when you're around.

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Balance Being a Grown-Up With Fun

The fun-loving and playful side of Gemini means they're not always the most mature, and in a relationship, that might mean you have to step up to the plate and be the more grown-up person every once in a while. That might mean helping them tackle tough responsibilities or bring them back down to earth when their head's in the clouds. Chances are that  this silly and exciting side of them is something you love, so remember that it's all about balance. You, too, can embrace this side of yourself and loosen up from time to time. Remember not to be their parent and nag them, but instead to learn to communicate in a way that helps them step up to the plate to do important things, even when things get boring.

 

Work Spontaneity Into Your Routine

Unfortunately, Geminis can get bored easily, which can get extra tricky when it comes to relationships. If you're the person who needs to adhere to a routine, consider scheduling out time for "planned" spontaneity. Keep where you're headed or dinner or to hang out a surprise to keep them on their toes, even if that means research and adding things to calendars on your side. Have an hour or two twice a week built into your schedule so that if they throw something unexpected at you, it'll be totally doable. Basically, expecting the unexpected is the key to success.

 

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