15 Hard Truths No One Tells You About Being Single for a Long Time

Sometimes the single life can be rough.

While we're all about embracing our independence and refusing to settle for a subpar relationship, we also want to be honest about the not-so-great parts of spending a long time on your own.

If you're starting to feel like the single life will never end, keep scrolling for 15 hard truths no one tells you about being single for a long time.

1. You entered the single life feeling so happy and free, but the longer it's lasted, the more you start to doubt yourself. You question if maybe there's something wrong with you or if you're being too picky with all your requirements for a future romantic partner.

To All the Boys I've Loved Before: Peter confront Lara Jean

(To All the Boys I've Loved Before via Netflix)

2. At the same time, there'nothing you hate more than cliché relationship advice. "Just put yourself out there!" and "Maybe you shouldn't expect so much from people" are phrases that you hear multiple times a week, and you're understandably over it. You know what you deserve, and you don't want to settle for less just for the sake of having a relationship.

3. And for anyone who might disagree, you do know exactly what you deserve because you've had tons of time to imagine what you want out of a future relationship.

4. Whether it's something about you as a person or something about the people you're meeting, you feel like you're just not built for the dating scene. It's stressful and time-consuming, and you could happily live without the constant string of first dates that go nowhere.

5. But you also know that you'll never find anyone if you don't put yourself out there a bit, so you continue with the pointless dating game. You have to meet someone you like eventually, right?

Grown-ish: Zoey whistling in class

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6. You've become super adept at spotting red flags in relationships. Whether it's someone you're dating or someone one of your pals is seeing, you're fully aware that their "cute" jealousy and bad temper are going to cause big problems down the line.

7. Because you're great at spotting red flags, you're also constantly judging other people's relationships. You know you should let people be happy with people whi make them happy, but you can't help feeling like everyone around you is making a big mistake.

8. Even though you're constantly judging your friends' relationships, you can't help but be a little jealous. You like that they found someone who makes them feel all the warm and fuzzies, but you're also sad that it seems so hard for you to find someone to love when it looked so easy for them.

9. You go through ups and downs in your feelings about being single. Some days you're thrilled that you have so much independence and you don't have to worry about another person, and other days you can't deny that you  do feel a little bit lonely.

Crazy Ex-Girlfriend: Rebecca upset

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10. You start to wonder if you should actually let your friends set you up with someone. You hate the idea, but at least it would give you a new avenue to meet people.

11. Then again, if your friends can't find someone you really like, you might start to think that you really are doomed.

12. You start to feel a little judged for being single. You feel like everyone's pitying you and wondering why you can't get a romantic partner. Uhh, excuse me, but what exactly is wrong with waiting for the right relationship?

13. You start to worry that you'll get so comfortable on your own that you won't be able to fit another person into your life. Having to adjust Friday night movie night with your pals for a date night? Inviting another person to your full days of Netflix binge-watching? It almost sounds like too much effort to even pursue a relationship.

Jess eating breakfast alone on New Girl

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14. At a certain point, you start to wonder if you'll ever find someone. You know it's a ridiculous thought to have when you have so much life ahead of you, but being alone for long enough can make you start to think that no one's right for you.

15. Despite all the highs, lows, happy days and negative thoughts that creep in about being single, you know you're doing the right thing. It's better to be content alone than miserable with someone else. It might take a while, but eventually you'll find someone who's better than your solitude.


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