You and your bestie are practically attached at the hip. You know each other’s secrets, finish each other’s sentences and spend an outlandish amount of time together. You’re soul sisters, after all.

But what happens when your dynamic is threatened by an outsider, A.K.A. their new significant other?

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Things are bound to change in your relationship when your friend has a new bae, and you’re going to have to accept that.

If you’re struggling to stay positive, look on the bright side and take a peek at these five pointers for making the best out of the situation.

1. Embrace Being a Third Wheel

Now that your best friend has an additional partner in crime, it’ll inevitably be harder to find quality alone time with just them. If your friend and their new S.O. invite you to hang out with the two of them, accept! Being a third wheel is actually quite cool—you get to hang out with your bestie, get to know the new person in their life and do something fun. It’s a a win-win situation if you’re not afraid to jump right in.

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2. Get to Know Your Friend’s New S.O. and Their Friends

Take advantage of having potential new friends! If your bestie’s new S.O. has a tight-knit friend group of their own, branch out and plan a group hangout. This is a great opportunity to hang out with your friend and it won’t feel like you’re tagging along because there will be several people. Who knows, you might even meet a new bestie or new S.O. of your own, for that matter, in the process.

3. Plan Time For Just You and Your Bestie

Although hanging out with your friend in a group and with just them and their bae is fun, you still need to make sure you make girl time for just the two of you. Plan ahead and ask them to set aside a little time each week to catch up, grab a Starbucks or just chat on the phone. Quality time together is a must if you want to uphold your friendship. If she’s a great friend, she will make sure to do this.

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4. Be Okay With Alone Time

Because you were so used to spending so much time with your bestie, it might be a little bit of a wake up call when you realize you now have so much alone time carved out. Make use of this time. You don’t always need to be surrounded by friends! Have quiet time reading, journaling, blogging and enjoying your own presence.

5. Be Honest With Your Feelings

If you feel like your friend has completely ditched you for their new S.O., you need to express how you feel. Your friend is probably so wrapped up in their new relationship that they may not even realize how it is affecting you. If you approach them nicely and tell them exactly how you feel about the new situation, they should understand where you’re coming from. Chances are they will correct their actions and make a more pointed effort to include you in their plans. Honesty is always the best policy.


We’re sure your bestie and you will be able to work it out if you follow these simple pointers, but sometimes friendships just naturally fade. Click HERE for how to deal when you start to grow apart from a close pal.