7 Things to Consider Before Dating a Friend

Dating a friend may sound like fun and games, but there's a lot more to it than that.

On one hand, you might know everything about this person and feel totally comfortable around them. On the other, being in a relationship with them could potentially destroy your friendship if things don't work out well.

If you're strongly considering dating a friend, scroll below for seven things to consider before you do just that.

1. The Strength of Your Friendship

Is this friend someone who knows all your secrets, but hasn't shared them with a single soul? Do you two constantly spend all your free time together, yet never seem to get bored of one another? Or is this friend someone you constantly argue with and are never really sure where you stand in their eyes?

If your relationship mirrors the latter, chances are dating them won't work out too well. You already have issues with them being your friend, which will definitely translate into your relationship. The stronger your bond is, it lays a better foundation for your partnership. But if there are already plenty of cracks in the foundation, maybe it's best to not start dating your friend.

 

2. Why You Want to Date Them

Before you date anyone—friends included—it's important you know why you want to date them. Do you want to be with them only because they want to be with you? Or are you thoroughly convinced they could be the love of your life and the two of you would be the happiest couple on the face of the planet?

Being unsure about dating someone is pretty normal. But we can confirm that if you go into a relationship with hesitation and doubt, it won't work out in your favor. If you really do see a future with your friend, however, and are positive nothing but great things will come from you dating, then go for it. Throw caution to the wind and take that leap of faith. Whatever your gut is telling you, follow that.

Betty staring at Archie on an episode of Riverdale

(Riverdale via The CW)

 

3. How You'd Feel If It Ruined Your Friendship

No friendship will ever be the same after two close pals date. We all like to think it could return to normal, but that's rarely ever the case. Know that if you decide to date your friend, you'll "ruin" the friendship in a way. There's the possibility that you two will break up. And if that happens, it's pretty unlikely you'll go back to being friends right away. It may just take some time, or your relationship with them won't ever amount to anything. So before you start dating, really question if this relationship is worth losing a friend over.

 

4. Whether or Not They Feel the Same Way

You may be ready to date your friend, but have you stopped to ask them how they feel about all of it? Relationships aren't one-sided. If you're not entirely sure about their feelings for you, be sure to ask them. And if you don't feel at all prepared to do that, then you probably shouldn't date them.

When dating anyone, both sides need to know the other is totally committed to making things work. Not dealing with that underlying hint of uncertainty makes it that much more difficult for your relationship to blossom into something beautiful. So be sure you're fully aware of how they feel about dating before you ask them out.

Kat and Patrick on a paddle boat in 10 Things I Hate About You

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5. How Your Friend Group Will React

Two friends dating doesn't just concern the parties involved, but rather the entire friend group. The whole dynamics of your crew will change dramatically once the two of you start seeing each other. The pair of you hanging out as friends is vastly different than you two spending some quality time with one another and your other besties. It might not be weird for you, but your squad will definitely feel like something's off. They may stop inviting you two to group gatherings or constantly joke about how weird it is that you're together. If you think you can handle that, great. If the thought of that makes you uncomfortable, don't date your friend.

 

6. How the Thought of Kissing Them Makes You Feel

If you've made it through this list without us shaking your confidence, congratulations. But here comes the part where most people realize dating their friend really isn't something they could do. It's time to talk about kissing, holding hands and all that other cutesy nonsense couples partake in. If thinking about doing this with your friend feels entirely awkward and not something you really want to do (as it should), turn back now, because dating them isn't going to work out. Not so sure you could date them now, huh?

Riley and Lucas before their first kiss on Girl Meets World

(Girl Meets World via Disney Channel)

 

7. The Amount of Information You Know About Their Past Relationships

Depending on how close you are to your friend, chances are you know all about their history. They've probably shared every last detail about their exes with you and then some. Does knowing this make you feel a little uneasy about dating them? Are you starting to compare yourself to their former flings? We hate to break it to you, but if this is causing you stress, imagine the amount of misery it'll bring you when you finally start dating. All you'll have playing in the back of your mind are the various conversations you've had about the people they've dated. We don't know about you, but that'd sway us not to date our friend. If that's not the case for you, more power to you.

 

Still not sure how you feel about entering a relationship with them? We're breaking down the pros and cons of dating your friend HERE.