5 Frustrating Things You Might Experience 3 Months Into Your Relationship

Believe it or not, the three month mark in your relationship actually represents an important milestone.

After 12 weeks (give or take a few weeks on either end), you know what works about the relationship and what doesn't, which means it's time to decide whether you're ready to make things more serious or back off. Plus, the honeymoon happiness also starts to fade. Now, you have to put work into maintaining your relationship, rather than relying on your easy connection to carry your romance.

So how can you deal with all those changes? Knowing about them could be a good start. Keep scrolling for five frustrating things you might experience three months into your relationship.

Your Interactions Change

When you're in the honeymoon stage of the relationship, you and your S.O. likely have a shared desire to spend all your time together. You hang out whenever you're both free, and when you're not together physically, you're usually texting each other. However, that's simply not practical over a long period of time. As you become more comfortable in your relationship and the initial rush of chemicals starts to fade, you'll find that you're both less inclined to dedicate every spare second to your partner.

At the three-month mark, you might start texting each other less and less. You might also start putting time with your partner aside in favor of time with your friends. Don't freak out—it's totally normal. Your relationship shouldn't be the two of you living in a bubble. It might feel like a massive change at the time, but as long as you can maintain a healthy balance, it'll probably lead to a strong relationship down the line.

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You Start Arguing

Ah, the dreaded fighting. Everyone waits in agony for their very first argument with their partner. And it's totally understandable—it's hard to fight with someone you care about. However, 12 weeks in you'll probably start to have those nasty little disagreements with your S.O.

Once you become more comfortable with one another, you'll both want to share your distaste for certain things. Of course it feels frustrating—no one wants to waste their time arguing with anyone. But disagreements are actually a very normal part of any relationship. You can't avoid them forever, and your three-month fights will likely reveal a lot about your commitment to the romance. If you both give up after one disagreement, you probably didn't care that much about the relationship. If you stick it out and get through your arguments, you just might have what it takes to make things work.

 

You Notice Their Flaws

Have you ever heard the phrase blinded by love? Yeah, it's totally a real thing. When you're just so infatuated with someone, it's hard to notice any of their flaws. In fact, your emotions are in such a jumble that you might truly start to believe they don'have any flaws. The three-month mark of your romance will change that real quick.

At this point, you'll probably start to realize that your S.O. does indeed have their fair share of flaws. Anything from chewing with their mouth open to being totally selfish can start to register on your radar. It's okay to notice your S.O.'s faults. You'll never find a single person who isn't without their shortcomings. It's when you notice them, however, that you have to determine whether they're big enough to be deal-breakers or small enough to exist as minor annoyances in an otherwise wonderful romance.

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You Start to Feel Them Pulling Away

Unfortunately, it has to be acknowledged—the three-month mark is a highly popular time for a breakup. Everything that you're feeling and noticing about the relationship, your partner is noticing as well. That means you might start to feel them pulling away from the seriousness of your romance. However, that doesn't necessarily mean that you're headed for a split. They might need a little space to sort things out. They might be looking for more independence in your romance.

Either way, you might feel your S.O.'s attitude towards you shift. Give them a little time to sort things out, and remember that you can't convince anyone to stay with you if they don't want to. Better to break-up after three months than after three years.

 

You Question the Relationship

While your S.O. might be pulling away from you, it's possible that you're doing the same thing. It's not uncommon for you to start doubting your relationship at the three-month mark. As you transition into a more serious period of the romance, you might start to question if you're really with the right person. Do they have everything you want? Are you genuinely happy? Do you want to put in the effort to make things work?

These concerns and more are totally normal. However, that doesn't mean you should shrug them off. The three-month milestone is a good time to take a hard look at your romance and decide if it's worth investing in. You might realize that all your fears were totally unfounded, but you might also decide that this isn't the right relationship for you. Either way, you'll go into the next stage of your partnership with a clear mind and a genuine understanding of what you're willing to contribute to make this relationship work.

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