How to Cope After You've Been Ghosted
No one enters a relationship expecting their S.O. to disappear on them without a trace. Unfortunately, it happens.
Being ghosted is a horrible, awful way for a relationship to end. We wouldn't wish this type of outcome on our worst enemies.
So what do you do when it happens to you? Scroll below for our advice on how to cope immediately after you've been ghosted.
Don't Keep Pestering the Person Who Ghosted You
Chances are you're going to be caught off guard when you're ghosted. It'll likely come out of nowhere, so you'll want an explanation. While you deserve to know why this person just up and left, it's not a good idea to keep texting them for an explantation. It's highly unlikely they'll respond, so don't expect to get any sort of closure from them.
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Delete Their Number and Texts
We can't emphasize this enough: Delete them anywhere you can! Delete their number, all of your text messages, unfollow them on all social media and get rid of everything that reminds you of them. They were so easily able to remove you from their life, so you're just as capable of doing the same. Of course, it'll take some time to fully heal from this ordeal, but you have to be willing to let go of them first.
Know It's Not Your Fault
When you're ghosted, your first reaction is to blame yourself. You convince yourself that you were the problem. You were too needy, too clingy, too this, too that. Know that it wasn't your fault and it's totally on the person who ghosted you. They're the one in the wrong, not you. So before you talk yourself down and insist you're the reason for this failed relationship, take a step back and a deep breath.
That said, it's okay to take time to reflect on why this person ghosted you. Think about things that happened in your relationship that led them down this path, but don't just focus on what you did. Think long and hard about the mistakes they made and if there were any warning signs. You'll quickly realize it's not you, it's them.
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Take Time to Be Sad
It's okay to be upset by what happened to you. It's okay to cry and scream and take some time away from the world. You're more than valid in feeling this way, so don't force a brave face when all you want to do is listen to sad music and wallow in self-pity for a minute. You're only doing more harm to yourself.
The key here is to not let your sadness completely take over your life. Give yourself no more than a month to indulge in your dejection, but don't let it go on for too long. It'll only make it harder to move on and reclaim your self-worth.
Even after you've deleted your ex on social media and so on, you'll still find yourself reminiscing about your time together. This is why it pays to dive into something to distract yourself. Fill the void in your heart by doing something you were never able to do when you were seeing this person. Whether that's honing your artistic skills, exercising more or catching up on your favorite shows, find something else to take up your thoughts. Keeping yourself busy is the easiest way to forget about someone.
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Put Yourself Back Out There
After you've been ghosted, the last thing you want to do is put yourself back out there to face the possibility of rejection once again. We get it. But you really need to do it. If you don't face your fear, how can you expect to find someone? Yes, getting close to someone and sharing a part of your life with them just to see them throw it out the window isn't easy to get over. The person you meet next could do the very same thing, or they could be the one. Why not take a chance?
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