6 Signs You're More Invested in Your Relationship Than Your S.O.
In general, there should be a pretty even balance of effort in romantic relationships.
Depending on circumstances, there might not be an exact 50/50 split 100% of the time, but you should typically feel that your partner is just as committed as you are to making the relationship work. Not only is it unhealthy to give everything to your relationship without getting anything in return, it will also lead to resentment and a general deterioration of your romance over time.
So how do you know if you're giving more than you're getting in your partnership? Keep scrolling for six signs you're more invested in your relationship than your S.O.
1. You Always Apologize
Apologies should come easy and often in relationships—people mess up. It's important to recognize your mistakes and own up to them. However, if you're always the one apologizing and trying to fix things after a big fight, it's not a good sign. Trying to mend your mishaps is a sign that you care about the relationship, just as ignoring your problems and waiting for someone else to fix them indicates that you're not all that worried if things don't improve. If your S.O. never apologizes to you, even when they're clearly in the wrong, it's a sign that they don't really care about the health and well-being of your romance.
(Gilmore Girls via The CW)
2. You Adjust to Their Schedule
Incorporating a new person into your daily schedule is a challenge that most relationships face. You're both used to doing things on your own, so there has to be a bit of give and take to ensure that you're both spending enough time together. However, if you're constantly adjusting to your S.O.'s schedule just to ensure that you get time to hang out, they're likely not as invested in the relationship as you are. Waiting to hear if they can see you or canceling plans to spend time with them isn't just unhealthy, it's also indicative of an unfair balance of effort in your relationship. They shouldn't get to call all the shots and you shouldn't be waiting on their whims to spend time together.
3. You Reach Out First, Always
Whether it's sending the first text of the day or always asking them to hang out, you should never be the only one who reaches out to your partner. While it might seem like it's just the way your relationship works, haven't you ever wondered why they don't seem interested in speaking to you? It's probably because they have a "take it or leave it" attitude towards your romance, so there's no sense of urgency or responsibility to ensure you spend time together. You should both be committed to making time for each other, so if your partner never reaches out to you, you can likely assume that they're not that invested in your romance.
(To All the Boys I've Loved Before via Netflix)
4. Your Social Medias Are… Different
Social media isn't the only defining tool of your relationship, but it can give you some insight into how your S.O. feels about you. If your page is filled with pictures of the two of you, but you have yet to make an appearance anywhere on their accounts, it may be cause for concern. This is especially true if your S.O. posts often, they just don't post any pictures of you. Posting about your relationship means you're proud of the person you're with and you want to show them off to the world. While it's certainly not an exact science, an S.O. who doesn't post about you might not believe your relationship is going to last. If they're not invested, why would they fill their social media with you, only to take them all down once you break up?
5. They Don't Remember the Little Things
Remembering the little things is a big part of any relationship. Not only because it allows you to truly connect with the person you're with, but also because it indicates you're invested enough in this romance to take note of everything, even statements that seem to be unimportant. If your partner can never remember the things you say to them, they're probably not all that into your romance. A partner who doesn't really care about you won't even think to take notice of the little things you say and do. It's frustrating to deal with a partner who doesn't listen, but it's also a sign that they're not deeply invested in your relationship.
(Pretty Little Liars via Freeform)
6. You Feel Anxious
Relationship anxiety doesn't develop for no reason. While everyone's different, constant worries about your partnership are usually an indication that your emotional needs aren't being met. Furthermore, the fact that you're holding onto your anxiety instead of confiding in your partner is a sign that you're worried about their potential reaction. If your partner isn't invested in your relationship, you're not going to feel calm and secure in your romance. Anxiety can develop for a variety of reasons, but it's worth examining if your fears stem from a general sense that your partner isn't as into you as you're into them.
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