8 Big Tips for Successfully Dating a Scorpio

Scorpio is a zodiac sign with a fascinating reputation, known at once for being mysteriously alluring and charismatic, as well as secretive, cold and vengeful.

If there's a special Scorpio in your life, chances are that you've been drawn in by their loyalty, passion and charm, and even if you've caught a glimpse of their less beloved traits, it hasn't been enough to dissuade you. That's good, because in relationships, Scorpios are intense, faithful and loving, and that's precisely the type of energy they're looking for in return.

Scorpios celebrate their birthdays at the height of fall between Oct. 23 and Nov. 21, with their zodiac symbol, the scorpion, perfectly demonstrating the sensitivity they hide and protect behind a tough outer shell and stinging tail. If you've been wondering about how to maintain a harmonious relationship with a Scorpio, we've got some tips for you.

Don't Rush Things

One of the most important things to know as you're building a relationship with a Scorpio is that it's going to take time. Don't rush things or push too hard, because their trust needs to be earned before they'll be willing to firmly commit to anything.

Start by making your intentions clear and flirting with them a bit, but without being too aggressive. Once you've made it abundantly clear that you're interested, let them take the lead. Scorpios are all about the chase, so let them pursue you. Meanwhile, you'll also want to give them the time and space to open up to you. With them, slow and steady will win the race.

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Let Them Take Charge

Most Scorpios are the happiest when they feel like they're in control of their lives, and that extends to their relationships. They prefer to take charge and lead the way, being in full control of their own lives while also being able to make some decisions about yours. Of course, Scorpios will generally only start a relationship with someone they're serious about, so they'll be extra thoughtful about anything they choose on your behalf. If that's not going to work for you, chances are that you're not going to be super compatible.

 

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But Draw Your Own Lines and Stand Up for Yourself

Of course, letting Scorpio take the reigns every once in a while doesn't mean they get to completely control the decision-making in your life. You can't just bend to their every whim, and in fact, you'll set up a much healthier and happier relationship if you know how to stick up for yourself as your own autonomous person. Let them know when they're asking too much and set some solid ground rules about what works for you and what doesn't. Ensure that they don't walk all over you and the relationship gets imbalanced because of it. Scorpio is bound to respect you for your strength and appreciate that you're your own independent and self-sufficient person.

 

Be Curious

Scorpios are sensitive, soulful and intense in their approach to everything in life, and the best way to match that energy is to be equally curious and caring in return. It's important to them that you're interested in who they are, but at the same time, they don't appreciating too much prying or pushing. They'd rather demonstrate their character through their actions then catch you up with facts and details of their life.

Further, they'll want you to demonstrate curiosity about how their minds work. What drives them? What do they want out of life? And what kind of relationship do they see themself within in the future? This is also a good way to find out what expectations they have of you and whether you're suited for the role. After all, Scorpios have high standards. They're not going to lower them or abandon their dreams without a very good reason to do so.

 

Be Authentic

Being authentic to yourself has to be one of the most important things when you're in a relationship with a Scorpio, because if there's one thing they can't stand, it's dishonesty. If you're only acting a certain way or doing things to impress them, either you're going to have to continue a farce through your entire relationship, or they're going to see right through you and rightfully call you out on your deception. Don't put up any fronts and do what you can to allow them to fall for the real you. Otherwise, it's never going to work out.

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Be Honest and Faithful

Of course, being completely open and real with your Scorpio partner also means remaining faithful to them. Again, trust is critical when it comes to Scorpio relationships. Once you've earned it, you don't want to do anything to mess that up. Once it's lost, you're unlikely to ever regain it.

That means no secrets, no flirting and ensuring that your eyes don't stray from your partner, as well as fully putting your trust in Scorpio and their love. Be caring and devoted, and if you do decide that the relationship isn't working out and you would rather be with someone else, break things off in a respectful and straightforward way instead of going behind their back.

 

Keep the Relationship Fun and Exciting

Scorpios thrive on thrills and excitement, and while they enjoy the chase of the start of a relationship, the honeymoon phase is unlikely to last forever on its down. Take initiative to keep that fun going. To keep things from getting stale, surprise them with opportunities to try new things, whether that's going out to restaurants, visiting local sights or just participating in surprise activities. Maybe they enjoy physical challenges, adrenaline-seeking, mentally stimulating games or getting artistic. Just because you're committed doesn't mean things have to get boring. Remind them why you both fell for each other in the first place.

 

Be a Team

Scorpios truly are as loyal as they come, and you can prove your own allegiance to them simply by always being on the same team. Have their back, and they'll have yours. Also, because Scorpios can often be easily misunderstood, there may be people who dislike your partner for whatever reason. Learn to stick up for them and be on their side, especially when this ire is unearned. Be their biggest cheerleader, whether they're there or not, and you're bound to build something lasting and strong together.

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