Here's What to Do When You and Your Bestie Are Crushing on the Same Person

Having a crush is great. Having feelings for the same person your BFF is crushing on, however, isn't so great.

Hey, it happens. You can't always control your feelings for another human being. That being said, there are a handful of things you should definitely do the second you and your bestie realize you're crushing on the same cutie. Keep scrolling to discover what they are!

1. Don't Get Upset With Yourself

Feelings happen. You can try as hard as you want to not like someone, but sometimes you can't help but be interested in them. When you realize you're starting to like the same person your BFF does, don't get down on yourself. It really isn't your fault, nor do you have anything to feel bad about. It's just human nature to like someone (and it's not like your friend and crush are dating). The key thing to do when you realize these feelings is to accept them, but not necessarily embrace them. Before you do that, you'll want to chat with your bestie—which brings us to our next point.

Jennifer Black Lightning, sad on couch

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2. Be Honest With Your BFF About Your Feelings

Once you've accepted your feelings for this individual, it's important to talk to your bestie about them. The worst thing you can do is try and hide it from your BFF. They'll sense something is up, even if you act like everything's fine.

Having this conversation isn't easy, but it has to be done to make sure your friendship remains as solid as it is. Some silly little crush shouldn't be the reason your friendship falters.


3. Don't Let Jealousy Get in the Way

When these feelings happen, chances are someone is more invested than the other. And maybe even the person you're pining for likes one of you, too. If you're way more into them than your bestie, but you can tell your crush likes your BFF, jealousy is bound to happen. Don't. Act. On. It. Remain calm, cool and collected, and let those negative feelings go.

And if the inverse of this situation is happening, where your friend has become a green-eyed monster, don't hesitate to call them out. You both need to remember that your friendship is the most important thing.

Cheryl jealous of Veronica on Riverdale

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4. Evaluate What's Important to You

Take some time to evaluate the situation on your own, too. Really think about what you want. If you're not that close with this friend and don't really care what happens to your friendship, then go for it with the person you're crushing on. But if your friendship is as important as we think it is, it's best to just let these feelings go and move on. Ultimately, the decision is up to you, just don't act hastily.


5. Come to an Agreement

After you and your bestie have both spent some time thinking about what you want, talk it out to come to an agreement about how the situation will be dealt with. Both of you should like the eventual outcome and be on the same page with how to deal with everything. If you're not, then things likely won't end well for either of you. So vow to talk it out, until you've both accepted the terms and conditions.

Betty and Veronica looking upset on the first episode of The CW's Riverdale

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While we're on the topic of friendship, HERE are a few things you should never feel obligated to do for your bestie.