How to Ask for What You Want

We all want a lot for ourselves in life, whether that be something like finding love or passing your next test.

And while wanting is rather easy, actually acquiring the things we want can take some work. You can't just sit back and expect the things you want to fall into your lap—and yes, that is even if you practice your affirmations every day. What you can do, though, is actually start asking for what it is that you want. While this is surely a lot easier said than done, it isn't impossible. Even if you're the world's biggest people pleaser, asking for what you want is key to changing your life for the better. So, let's discuss how to actually do it.

Work On Your Confidence

"Confidence is key" isn't just a cute saying, it's also the hard truth that makes up the first step in asking for what you want. When you approach a situation or person with confidence, you're so much more likely to get an answer that you want in response to your ask. Not only does it show that you have the faith in yourself to believe that you actually deserve whatever it is you're asking for, but it also helps you in the long run, as well. Sure, becoming more confident is hard work, but it truly is all worth it in the end.


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Remember That the Worst Answer You Can Get Is Simply "No"

Once you've worked up the courage to actually ask for what you want, you need to actually ask. The most anxiety you'll feel is right before going for it, but this is when you need to put in some effort to relax and think positively. In this moment, the key to success is simply reminding yourself that no matter what it is that you're asking for, the worst answer you're going to receive is simply a "no." When you think of it that way, it takes a whole lot of weight off your shoulders when it comes to the pre-asking anxiety. This could go for anything from asking your crush if they like you back or asking your partner if they want to be official, to asking your parents if you can have a car for your birthday or simply if you can go to your friend's party after the prom. That way, even if you do get a no, you can start thinking ahead on what to do next. Besides, usually, it's true that everything happens for a reason, and that includes getting a no when you wanted a yes.


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Go For It!

And finally, you just have to apply the tips above and go for the big (or little) ask. Go forth with confidence, remind yourself that even an answer that isn't the one you want is not so bad and just ask for the thing that it is you want. Trust us, your life might just change for the better once you get used to asking for what you want, making it a second nature habit.


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