Little Things You Can Do to Get Better at Flirting

Flirting is one of those things that can be fun, but only when you're good at it.

If you're the type who struggles with flirty conversation and generally "how to flirt" as a whole, you may find the whole experience more awkward than anything else. In truth, flirting is an art—and just like drawing, painting or sculpting, it's something you can get better at with a little training and practice. The good news is that getting better at it doesn't need to be difficult, either—there are some small, simple things you can do to improve your flirting skills the next time you find yourself in a situation that calls for it. So, whether you're talking to your classroom crush or someone you met elsewhere entirely, let's dive into some easy little things you can do to get better at flirting.

Act Confident (Even If You Have to Fake It at First)

When you think of people you know or have met who could be described as flirtatious, they probably all share the same characteristic: confidence. When someone walks into a room with confidence, it adds a certain charismatic charm to them that makes them harder to resist, and that alone makes flirting so much easier. If you struggle with feeling confident, you likely also don't find flirting particularly natural. So, to get better at one, you simply need to practice the other. The good thing is that confidence really is something that works in terms of "fake it 'til you make it," so just try it next time you go somewhere until it starts to feel like second nature.

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Also read about: 4 Easy Ways to Become More Confident

 

Don't Forget About Body Language

While what you say has a huge impact on how you interact with someone (especially someone you might be interested in), how you act can, too. Simple body language tricks can tell you a lot about how someone is feeling in a situation, and they can also help you make yourself seem more open and flirty. So, instead of slouching, crossing your arms or leaning heavily into the person you want to flirt with, sit or stand up straighter (but not in a way that seems stiff), open up your frame slightly and try to lean back—these are hacks that draw them towards you and give off a more confident demeanor, which in turn makes flirting so much easier.

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Go With the Flow

No matter how many times you rehearse a situation in your head, there's a slim chance that it'll actually turn out that way. So save yourself the effort and simply relax into a conversation (easier said than done, we know, but practice makes perfect). Let the conversation flow easily and try not to overthink anything you said or didn't say—if the person doesn't like you when you're being yourself, then they aren't the one for you, anyway.

 

Use Social Media to Your Advantage

In today's world, the art of flirting goes far beyond just what you do when face-to-face with someone. Social media can be a huge tool in your flirting toolkit, and for some, it might even be where the relationship begins. Try not to be weird about it, but dropping an occasional story reaction (especially when it can lead to a conversation) or like here and there is a great way to open up a line of flirty communication that continues on from there—and that might even land you an actual date.

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Also read about: A Beginner's Guide to Flirting

 

A Little Emoji Use Can Go a Long Way

Speaking of social media, your DMs and texts are the perfect chance to spice things up with the right emoji when the chance presents itself. After all, a picture is worth a thousand words, and an emoji is an easy way to use that power without it seeming too unnatural. Don't go too above and beyond, but throwing in a subtle smirk or winky face once in a while can let the person you're messaging know that things are definitely open for further flirtation.

 

All in all, getting better at flirting doesn't need to be difficult. It really can take just a few simple adjustments to what you're already doing, and these tips are the starting point to perfecting your flirting game. If you need more tips on which emojis to use when texting your crush, click HERE for our list of the best ones.