We totally understand the struggle of sending a text to your crush… and not getting a response.

It’s frustrating and embarrassing, but it’s also an incredibly common occurrence. Aka none of us are alone in our suffering.

It’s also important to remember that there are literally so many reasons your text may have gone unanswered, and not all of them are simply that the person doesn’t like you.

So what other excuses could be responsible for your pain? Keep scrolling for six possible reasons why your crush didn’t text you back.

1. They Forgot

Roll your eyes all you want, but as someone who is truly bad at texting, I’m completely on board with the “I forgot” excuse. If your crush is busy or has other things going on in their day, it’s totally possible that they opened your text, made a mental note to make a reply when things calmed down and then just completely forget to respond. It does suggest that you don’t rank very high on their priority list, but it doesn’t mean that they don’t like you or that there’s no hope for a future between the two of you.

Zoey Staring at her Phone Grown-ish

(Grown-ish via Freeform)


2. They Think the Timing Is Wrong

You might think that things have never been better for you and your crush to start pursuing a relationship, but that doesn’t mean they’re on board. A relationship takes two people, and your crush might believe that the timing just isn’t right. They could have other things going on in their life, a real desire to focus on their own passions or just a general feeling that they’re too busy to commit real time to a relationship. It doesn’t have to be a reflection on you—it might just be that your crush doesn’t want to pursue a relationship at the moment.


3. Your Text Didn’t Require a Response

There’s a fine balance between interested and aloof that everyone tries to strike when texting their crush. You want to be just a little bit flirty, but in a way that can totally be played off if your crush isn’t interested. Texting your crush is quite the art form.

However, there are times when you hit too far on the “aloof” side of the spectrum. If you send your crush a text that doesn’t demand a response, they probably won’t respond. You really shouldn’t be surprised by that—just try texting them again a little later and ask a question so you can gauge if your text was the problem, or if they really don’t want to talk to you.

Joey King's character in The Kissing Booth lounging by the pool while on her phone

(The Kissing Booth via Netflix)


4. They Have Issues

Sometimes your crush refusing to text you back has absolutely nothing to do with you. It could be totally possible that your crush recognizes some issues on their end, and they don’t want to start a romantic relationship while they’re working through their stuff. Maybe they have a fear of commitment or some deep struggles with emotional intimacy. Don’t automatically assume it’s your fault—it could totally be something your crush recognizes in themselves that causes them to shy away from developing a relationship with you.


5. They’re Seeing Someone Else

It’s totally possible that your crush could be seeing someone else without you knowing about it. Their relationship could be in the beginning stages or their S.O. could attend another school. In that case, it’s understandable that they wouldn’t text you back. It’s nice that they’re committed enough to their relationship that they don’t want to put it in jeopardy by texting someone else, and you can take a sigh of relief in knowing that you’re not the problem.

Crazy ex-Girlfriend Rebecca staring at her phone

(Crazy Ex-Girlfriend via The CW)


6. They Don’t Like You

Sorry to break the news, but this list wouldn’t be complete without adding this reason. It’s very possible that your crush just doesn’t like you. Does that mean that you’re unattractive or undesirable in general? Absolutely not. It just means that they’re not interested. Everyone has their own taste, and if you don’t align with your crush’s desires, it’s better to know now so someone else can appreciate you for the lovely human being you are.


Looking to end the games and skip to the dating phase? Click HERE for how to ask your crush on a date.