Developing a crush is a weird process.
One minute, you’re entirely unaware of a person’s existence. And the next, all you can do is think about how to make them a part of your world. Unlike Ariel, you can’t sell your voice to a sea witch for a set of legs and the chance to meet your prince charming. That, however, is beside the point.
Once you realize you’ve fallen for someone, you’re hit with this wave of emotions. Cupid’s arrow is stronger than we’d like to admit, but we’ll keep our beef with him out of this.
This love-fueled creature buried deep inside you wants to be unleashed and take full control. Before you give in and do something you’ll regret, we’d like to offer some advice. Don’t do it. Don’t allow yourself to be a victim of Cupid’s crash decision to make you feel something for someone else.
We’re being harsh and cynical here, so don’t turn into us. That said, you definitely should not do these seven things the minute you develop a crush. We’re doing our best to save you before it’s too late!
Having a crush is exciting, invigorating, thrilling, fun, etc. Once you realize you have feelings for someone, your ability to keep that between you and your diary is pretty tough. While you might be ready to shout it from the rooftops and tell your besties, siblings, parents, teachers, peers, pets, neighbors, don’t do it. Because once you tell these people, they’ll know how you really feel about your crush and it makes it all the more real.
Sometimes, you think you’re crushing on someone and then a few days later, you realize you’re not. How embarrassing would that be to tell everyone you know you really like this individual and then have to turn around and admit those feelings faded faster than that pair of jeans you washed one too many times? Moral of the story, don’t tell anyone about your feelings until you’re completely certain they’re there to stay.
Now that this former acquaintance means everything and more to you, chances are you’ll want to change who you are to get their attention or be what they want. You’ll probably plan to switch up your hair, update your style and even completely reinvent who you are. Bear with us while we sound like your mom for just a sec: You’re perfect just the way you are, and you do not need to change yourself for anyone. If someone doesn’t appreciate all you have to offer, it’s not your job to make them see how incredible you are. You’re not pizza, you cannot please everyone.
There’s a time and place for fantasizing about the future, but it’s not when you’ve just realized you developed feelings for someone. Save that for when the two of you actually end up in a relationship. As tough as it’ll be to prevent your mind from daydreaming about what it’d be like to be with your crush, try your hardest to stop those fantasies before they go too far. They may seem like fun and games, but soon they’ll have you fixated on a fictitious version of your crush and not the real them. Everyone always seems so much better in your dreams, but they might not be all that amazing IRL.
Every little thing your crush does will be looked at under a microscope by you. The way they look at you, the way they sneeze around you, the way they talk to you. You’ll find yourself reading into everything way more than you need to or should. This will lead you to convincing yourself they’re starting to fall for you, too. Though there are some telltale signs your crush is into you, don’t get ahead of yourself. Most of the time, what you think is them trying to profess their unwavering affection for you, is actually them simply being nice. Don’t hype yourself up for something that possibly isn’t there.
Having a crush is all fun and games until it’s the only thing you can focus on. There’s definitely such a thing as giving these feelings too much attention. You might not always notice it, so you’ll have to be on high alert. From thinking about them all the time to casually bringing them up in every conversation so you have an excuse to talk about them even more than you already do, you’ll want to do your best to avoid doing these things as much as you can. You shouldn’t feel bad if you find yourself daydreaming about them asking you out, but if you can’t focus on your homework because of it, get a grip. Inhale those fun, flirty feelings, then exhale them out and move on with whatever you need to get done.
In the same vein as changing yourself for your crush, we have devising a plan to get them to fall for you. While it sounds like a great idea when you’re hyped up on all these lovey-dovey feelings, it really isn’t. Even if you’re the ultimate planner, this one is a bad idea. Cancel these plans before it’s too late, because nothing good will come of them if you try to force them to happen. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen organically.
Just as you shouldn’t tell the world, you 100% should not confess your unwavering love to your crush the second you realize you’ve fallen for them. Again, you need to make sure these feelings are real before acting on them. Not to mention, your high will come crashing down if they reject you. Save yourself the trouble and just keep mum about the whole thing. But if these feelings persist for months on end, then go ahead and tell them how you feel. At that point, you’ll be more able to handle however they react to this profession of love.
We may not always know what to do, but we’ve learned a lot about what not to do though trial and error. So take it from us when we say you should never say THESE things to your crush.