10 Struggles You'll Relate to If You're an Accidental Flirt

There's only one thing more frustrating than not being able to flirt at all—accidentally flirting with everyone you meet.

A lack of flirting skills makes it tough for you to communicate that you like someone, but accidentally flirting puts you in the awkward position of monitoring every interaction to make sure you're not giving people false hope about that state of your relationship. It's exhausting.

If you definitely live the life of an accidental flirt, keep scrolling for 10 struggles only you can relate to.

1. You're constantly being accused of flirting, even though you were just trying to have a conversation with someone. Is flirting just being a nice person? If so, are you really supposed to change that?

Clueless: Cher trying to flirt with Christian

(Clueless via Paramount Pictures)

2. Since people always assume you're trying to flirt, you have to be very clear about who you're actually interested in, which results in quite a few honest and potentially awkward conversations with your pals.

3. Your close friends know that you're an accidental flirt, so they're always ready to swoop in and save you from any conversation. The slightest hint that you're uncomfortable and they're immediately dragging you away, which sometimes keeps you from people you're actually interested in.

4. You genuinely don't understand the process of flirting. You've been told you do it all the time, but you swear you're just being a nice person. Is there a difference? What are you doing wrong?

5. Since you don't understand how flirting actually works, when you find someone you actually want to flirt with you have no idea what you're doing. You start dwelling on every action too much and basically just shut down.

Riverdale Cheryl and Archie

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6. You've ruined a few friendships due to a misunderstanding about your interest. Your friend thought you were into them, you just thought you were becoming really close pals, things got awkward—it happens more than you'd like to admit.

7. Some people don't take very kindly to your accidental "flirting," which has resulted in quite a few arguments about you overstepping your bounds. You always feel bad, but are you just supposed to never talk to anyone? That doesn't seem like a great solution.

8. You don't want to be categorized as the flirt, so you start overthinking every interaction you have. Are you standing to close to this person? Did you laugh too enthusiastically at their joke? Are you making too much eye contact? Should you just hide yourself away and never speak to people again? That might not be a bad idea…

9. Even your attempts not to flirt seem to backfire. You try to be sarcastic or withdrawn and then people just assume you're playing hard to get. Can you not catch a break?

Regina and Aaron From Mean Girls

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10. You've accepted that you're doomed to live the life of an accidental flirt. You'll keep trying to change your ways, but you've come to terms with the fact that you're always going to have to over-explain yourself. At least your a friendly person, though… right?


Are you really bad at picking up on other people's flirting signals? Click HERE for how to tell if someone is flirting with you or just being nice.