How to Successfully Talk to Your Crush

If there's one thing we can all agree on, it's that talking to your crush—especially in the early stages of having a crush on them—can be incredibly nerve-wracking.

Whether it's online through a good old-fashioned slide into their DMs or face-to-face in the halls of your school, the whole thing can feel very complicated. From figuring out what to say to making sure you look great that day and all the delicate nuances in between, it's a situation that's at least slightly stressful no matter who you are. The good news, though, is that you don't need to be so nervous about it! Easier said than done, of course, but we're here to help guide you through it with these tips on how to successfully talk to your crush.

1. Channel Complete Confidence

Confidence is one of those "fake it 'til you make it" things that you can learn to get really good at, even if you weren't necessarily born with the confidence you wish you were. It's not easy at first, but becoming more confident is possible with a little hard work. It's a good thing to figure out, though, because being confident will benefit you when it comes to a whole lot more in your life than simply talking to your crush successfully. You can start small—think a simple emoji reaction to their story—or go in big, but either way, your crush will see your confidence as an attractive trait.


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2. Go In With Something to Actually Say

In order to talk to your crush, you'll need to have something to actually talk about. Don't overthink this part—what you say could be as simple as asking them if they caught the homework assignment given during the class you have together or if they plan on attending the same party as you that's coming up. Just have something in mind that somehow gives a reason as to why you're talking to them in the first place.


3. When In Doubt, Compliment Them

Jumping off the last point, if you truly have nothing else to say, simply give them a compliment. Compliments are the perfect ice breaker (whether it be virtual or in-person) and they're easy to give out, even if you consider yourself one of the most introverted people in the world. Not only will it warm your crush up to you (everyone likes being complimented, it's simple psychology), but it throws a talking point out about whatever the thing is you complimented.


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4. Remember That They're Probably Not the Last Crush You'll Ever Have

And finally on our list of tips on how to successfully talk to your crush: just do it! Do it without fear, too, as there's a good chance that this person isn't going to be the last crush you'll ever have. That means that there isn't nearly as much gravity to the situation as you're currently weighing on it, so you can try your best to relax, embrace some confidence (even if it's faked) and get to it already. You'll be glad you did, even if the result isn't what you'd hoped. At the end of the day, you're young and so is your crush, so there are plenty more people like them to look forward to crushing on in the future. And if for some reason your crush isn't into it and doesn't take the bait of you talking to them, then they aren't worth your very valuable time anyway.


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